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Erotic Spanking: The sensual art of a delightful spank

You’ve read about it in books, seen it in movies & perhaps have a longing to explore some kink into your life. Let’s explore the art of erotic spanking. Erotic spanking, when undertaken as part of a consensual, sensual session between fun-loving adults, is an extremely pleasurable activity. Both the spanker and spankee enjoy an entire catalog of positive sensations and emotions - not to mention a whole lot of physical stimulation. As with all activities in the Kink lifestyle, consent and safety are key. Sure, the emphasis is always on exchange of control, adventure and fun, but the levels of vulnerability between partners enjoying kinky activities such as spanking are often pretty intense. So, how do you go about ensuring that you retain all the fun of a sound spanking, while keeping everyone safe? I'll show you how to spank your partner soundly and oh-so safely. So What is erotic Spanking exactly? Spanking, as part of sexual play, occurs when a person slaps a sex partner with an open hand or an object to heighten sexual arousal for one or both parties. Spanking is usually enjoyed by those who find sexual pleasure in pain. It can be done during foreplay or intercourse. Let’s commence to spanking:       Once both parties have reached a consensual agreement my best advice is to ready, yes focus your spanking on the buttocks. 1.) Always avoid impact on or above the tailbone, outside of the buttocks, lower thighs, the back of the knees, and where the bottom ends and the thighs begin. It’s easy to damage the tailbone or kidneys if you're spanking gets out of the safe zone. And anyway, most people find that it feels best on their butts. 2.) You can create different sensations by having the receiving partner in different positions. If they’re lying flat on a bed, their butt is less stretched out than if they’re bent over or on their hands and knees. Many people find that the further their hips are bent, the stronger the same impact can feel. 3.) I would recommend for first time play using your hand to spank as to have a better understanding of how your partner is feeling, if you’re not sure what you or your partner likes, start slow and ask. One great way to do that is to spank once and ask them to rate it on a scale of one to ten. Another way is to do two different strokes and ask which one felt better. Okay so the spanking is over now what? Great question. After Care, After Care, After Care. soothing lotion, a blanket, a sip of water, and a cuddle are wonderful tools for all parties involved. The spanker should check in on the spankee and discuss how the spankee is feeling both physically and emotionally. If your spanking session leads to wild, orgasmic, delicious hot sex, the aftercare can wait until you're done, but always check in with your partner at some point. FYI Spankings might cause redness, bruises, and tenderness. As you both ride the wave of orgasmic pleasure always remember that they key element to exploration is always to provide a safe, sane and consensual environment where both parties feel free to experiment and find what works best for each other. Not all spankings are equal, and you might be surprised at what they can do for you and your relationship.

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Evolution of Toys

Toys were not always considered toys. They were once considered medical implements to stimulate women suffering from “Hysteria”, to orgasm, in efforts to ease their mental and physical torment. That torment, is what we know today as sexual frustration, and those medical implements, were vibrators. For a while there, sex toys, were only accepted in a medical setting, used solely for practicality in expediting treatment. They were not discussed in the open, like the culture we are developing today. We have come quite far from then, not only in the mechanics of toys, and what they can do physically, but also the audience of toys. Once only accepted by doctors to use on women, now more commonly accepted for women to use on themselves. They are used for men to use themselves, for couples to use on one another, for people in the transgender community to adapt more easily to their sexuality, for members of the asexual community to explore sensuality within themselves. The audience for sex toys is not limited by anything. Sex toys are not for the economically wealthy, or the socially accepted sex and orientation. They are individualized for usage because pleasure does not discriminate. Diskrets ideology is back to basics, and not in since of doctors using the sex toys, but the complexity of the sex toys. Sometimes the most simple things are the most reliable, dependable, and quality products in the field. Diskret believes in the simplistic look that makes them luxurious in their own style. Take the Fresh by Leaf shown below. It is an Eco-friendly vibrator that is phthalate-free, has strong powerful vibrations, extremely quiet, and FSC paper packaging. This may look like a simple design, but that doesn’t stop it from delivering the best experiences.

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How to Use a Vibrator!

Have you ever wondered exactly how to use a vibrator for the most pleasure? It’s come to our attention through research and testimonies most women are using their vibrator completely wrong! After reading through this guide of tips and examples for the next time you pull out your trusty vibrator, you will have a mind-blowing experience.

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Secrets to Ignite Desire in a Relationship

Intimacy and Desire in a relationship are topics that should always garner some attention. Some believe that desire is not the most important aspect of a relationship, but few can actually be indifferent towards it. After all, desire is an essential part to a relationship. Without it, you're going to have a hard time making things work. So what exactly do I mean when I say desire and intimacy? Intimacy is profound and addresses attraction in multiple emotional, intellectual, and sexual manners. Desire focuses on one particular aspect of this: the sexual attraction we feel for our partner. What happens when desire leaves a relationship? The relationship begins to struggle. Especially when the desire becomes one-sided, the situation can become very painful. You can try to work together to restore the desire, intimacy, and closeness—some couples really manage to do it properly, but many couples also fail at it. Sometimes when the intimacy and desire are gone, they can not be recovered. It is far easier to take preemptive action to keep desire alive in your relationship from the beginning. Here are but a few simple tips to ignite desire back into your relationship: Talk honestly and openly about how you feel without blaming and accusing each other. When you speak frankly, it is as though a huge burden falls off of your soul. We often fear that we are too complicated and the other person won't understand, but it's worth a shot. If your partner understands you, this emotional closeness can translate back into physical closeness. This advice translates into your sex life as well. Communicate about what you like, what isn't so great for you, and what you think you should work on. Fear closes us. Honestly talking about how we feel will keep us open and available to our partners.This point elaborates on the previous. If you and your partner haven't lost your attraction to one another yet, make sure you're opening up regularly. Being afraid to tell them what you like or dislike can cause hidden resentments to sneak into your relationship. Communication is one of the most important things in the relationship between two people, especially when it comes to desire.  Maintain physical contact throughout the day, look each other in the eyes, and laugh with each other. Give kisses, embrace each other, and light caressing touches. These things often lead to deeper physically intimacy. Every relationship requires some kind of playfulness, both in the bedroom and out of the bedroom. An unexpected caress can leave your partner craving your touch, and can be the perfect precursor to some time in the bedroom later that night. Become aware of what you value and find attractive in your partner.Think long and hard about what makes your partner most attractive to you, and tell them often. Sometimes even your partner knows you love them, you should show it often. Tell them what exactly you find attractive. This can be anything from "Your skin smells incredibly delicious," to "I find it really sexy when you look deep into my eyes." Cultivate appreciation and respect for your partner.If you have ever felt like anything was missing from your relationship and you have worked through it, do your best to keep things fixed. Do not stop showing how much you care and never stop working on your relationship. Just because things are perfect at the moment does not mean you should ever stop trying. In order to keep it the flow of the relationship perfect you have to appreciate what you have. Surprise them with something they would have never expected. If you never clean the house, do it a couple of times and show your partner that you care about helping out and putting effort in. Surprise her with flowers, Ladies perhaps put together a romantic music list for him on Spotify. To spice things up give your partner a seductive massage with your favorite oils, Feed each other desert at a restaurant . This added time together can foster physical desire, especially if your partner is enamored by your desire to do something out of the box with them. Never make them think that they are not worth your attention (turn off your smartphones and televisions).  Always give your partner your undivided attention, with the age of technology having us all constantly connected give your partner 100% of your attention. This opens the door for compliments and let them know how important they are to you. Nurture them when they are down and emotionally broken, let them know they are never alone and give your best to make them feel like they are your universe, because after all—they really are the most important person to you. Again, emotional closeness fosters physical closeness. Problems with desire and intimacy are not anything that can be fixed off the cuff. That's why taking the time to keep desire alive in your relationship is vital. Communication is the most important thing about this. If you're feeling desire towards your partner, tell them.