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Ben Wa Balls The Orgasmic Truth

Oh you incredibly incorrect fable that eroticized all of America. Yes, I am speaking of Fifty Shades of NO NO.  And although I would love to sit here and rant and rave about how incorrect to the BDSM lifestyle these movies and novels are, lets just explore the famous Ben Wa Balls. Although the movie does not explain how to properly utilize these incredibly orgasmic tools of pleasure and a rite of passage for some woman, lets explore the history of these tools. Ben Wa Balls in History: Ben Wa Balls are said to originate in JapanCirca 500 CE: where they were called Rin No Tama ('tinkling bells') and were made either of metal or ivory. Originally they were a single ball placed in the vagina used to enhance the act of coitus, but shortly evolved into multiple metal covered balls linked by either a chain or silk string for easy removal. Usage of Ben Wa balls create a subtle stimulation, not meant to bring the user to immediate orgasm but rather to tease. It is possible to leave Ben Wa balls in one's vagina all day, or use them while seated in a rocking chair, for an effect that some find pleasurable. At the end of the sixteenth century, Ralph Fitch, an English traveler, encountered them in the Shan States of Burma. He described their use there by men. Less than a dozen years later, the Florentine merchant Francesco Carletti also reported their use in Thailand, where they were used to enlarge the penis. The Journey: I discovered the beauty of yoni balls during my Tantric training as we learned the pleasures of strength of the pelvic floor. My guru took us through a vigor’s course and thought us how the Ben Wa Balls could aid us not only to strengthen our PC muscles but offer a complete body & mind healing. As we grow older we tend to lose strength and control on our vaginal walls these are just the facts (nothing that can't be fixed).  Ben Wa Balls come in a cylindrical shape and are used in increasing weights to strengthen the vagina, which improves sexual performance and PC tightening.  Ladies no more mild urinary incontinence, such as that which occurs while laughing, or sneezing, this can be treated with Ben wa balls, vaginal weights, or Kegel exercises. So after that History Lesson and Brief why all woman should utilize Ben Wa Balls Which ones should you start with? Ladies don’t worry I am going to give you options: *The Yoni Eggs: these beautiful carefully crafted crystals (love stones) will aid your root chakra, normally these stones will call out to you as they are crafted to aid you in your healing journey. A Yoni Egg is a very personal thing. I believe that every woman intuitively knows what is best for her. That being said, if it is your first introduction to Yoni Eggs, go with your intuition. *Luna Beads: I always recommend the LELO Luna beads these beauties contain an inner weight, which moves with the movement of your body, causing you to clench your muscles in response. In a way, you can also tailor your own training goals with the luna beads, they come with two 28 gram beads and two 37 gram beads, which can be used by themselves or in different combinations as you become stronger. I highly recommend utilizing Ben Wa Balls to increase your libido, increase your natural lubrication, tighten your PC muscles and if you’ve never had a vaginal orgasm before, this diligent practice can change your life to an entire new world of delightful pleasures.

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Better than your Hand!

Gentlemen and sex toys; why keep them on the DL (down low)?  When a man mentions that he uses a sex toy to his friends, he is likely to be ridiculed rather than asked for a product recommendation. Perhaps this is because the image of male sex toys is the blow­up doll, whereas the reality is that male sex toys are now as innovative and varied as toys for women. Let’s explore some facts and also encourage men to have open conversations with their male friends about the importance of owning a sex toy. Here are some facts about men and their views about buying male sex toys: 51% of the men own a sex toy with cock rings being the most popular toy (30%) followed in popularity by Fleshlight, prostate massagers, penis pumps and stamina rings. 78% of the men said that they would consider buying a sex toy for solo use. 22% said “no way”. 70% suggested that they should be allowed to buy a male sex toy without embarrassment. 69% would be happy to let their partner use a male sex toy on them. 60% of the men who replied said they had use a female sex toy on their partner and enjoyed the experience. Doctors who specialize in sexual dysfunction recommend sex toys as a vital part of erectile dysfunction treatment, including: penis pumps, constriction bands (cock rings), and vibrators for use on the penis. As well, customers just seeking to do something a little different in their sex lives. Men often buy a vibrator for their wives too - it means they can still share intimacy even if penetrative sex isn't possible. Men who use sex toys were more likely to participate in sexual health promoting behaviors such as testicular examination and male sexual health clinics. They also scored highly on satisfaction levels of erectile dysfunction, intercourse satisfaction, orgasmic function and sexual desire. The benefits of orgasms are huge for both physical and mental well­being, and lowers the risk of developing prostate cancer by 22% (yes, 22%). So anything that adds or enables an orgasm can only be a good thing. So gentlemen, the point is share your toy knowledge with your close friends. It should never be a dirty-little secrete that lives in your dresser drawer or in hidden corners of the infamous man caves. Sex is healthy, and guys can help improve sexual performance and satisfaction if they are more open to sharing the value toys and the resulting orgasms bring to our bodies.

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Breast Play

Breasts have been the pivotal and a cultural phenomenon of lure, beauty and lust however the myth of how incredibly orgasmic our breast can be remains but a silent whisper. Most women don't know that their breasts are orgasmic. We're so focused on having an orgasm through clitoral stimulation and/or vaginal penetration that we miss out on so many other great forms of stimulation. While we’ve probably all thought of the breasts and nipples as “erogenous zones” for our whole adult lives, now there is scientific evidence that the brain thinks so too. A study was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine revealing that nipple stimulation activates the genital sensory cortex in the brain in the same way that stimulation of the clitoris, vagina and cervix does.  This may explain why orgasms from breast stimulation alone are possible. When you get aroused your breast can swell up to 25%. This natural boost makes the breast not only  look better but makes them also way more sensitive your nipples go from a pale to deeper hue the more you’re aroused. This makes sense, given that your blood flow increases when you’re turned on. Nipple play can be incredibly hot and satisfying for you and your man. Nipple play can be used to initiate sexual arousal and to add to sexual arousal during sex. When aroused, the nipple becomes erect. This is from the release of oxytocin, the feel-good hormone. As long as the nipple area is being stimulated, the oxytocin continues to release. And that can lead to more intense orgasms and a feeling that the whole body was involved in the orgasm There’s more than one way to stimulate your nipples, here are a few incredibly gun ideas you can utilize to play with your lover’s nipples. You can use these techniques on your lover, or you can ask them to use them on you. Breast Massage: Start with strokes around the belly, rib cage, and in between the breasts to tease your lover. Don't touch their breasts yet. Take time to tease their body then the continue onto the breasts and nipples. Alternate between a featherlike touch with your fingertips and a medium-light touch to caress the stomach, between your breasts, and the neck. Once you start to feel your lovers body react, use the featherlike touch to circle their breasts, then ease into massaging or squeezing the breasts. Wait to touch the nipples until you start to feel more turned on. Circling the breasts in large strokes around areola and breast without touching the nipples continues to build anticipation. Sensation Play: (Ice) Nipples can be very sensitive to changes in temperature utilizing ice might take nipple play go from 0- 100 in a few seconds. Ice will allow your lovers nipples to instantly react to the coldness of the ice, becoming hard and erect. To spice things up, have your partner run the ice cube over your breasts and nipples with their mouth. Nipple Clamps: To utilize nipple clasps on nipples, squeeze the sides of the clip to open the jaws of the brace. Hold the Nipple rigid, and place the cinch as far down on the nipple as would be prudent for a firm grasp. You may need to modify the clasps depending upon the size and of your lover’s nipples. For littler nipples, it might be simpler to squeeze onto the skin of the nipple for a firm grasp. On the other hand, it might be less demanding to put the clips on bigger nipples when the nipples are not erect, as the tissue will be more adaptable and less demanding to hold. Feather Tickler: Holding onto the stem, allow the soft tip of the tickler to gently caress your lover's nipples experiment with different types of contact, using a combination of barely-there touches and prolonged strokes to vary play, paying attention to how they react to each caress. You'll quickly get to know how and where they like it. Good ol fashion mouth and tongue action: There is nothing more satisfying than the fell of your lovers wet and warm mouth. Start with kissing, a kiss on your lover’s breast registers the sensation of soft, warm, and slightly moist lips that they’ll be sure to love. Start with short pecks from the under- boob and work your way with longer and deeper kisses until you reach the nipples. Licking is wet, slimy and warm. And then cools off as the saliva evaporates from the skin making for a novel mix of sensations. There are many ways to lick your lover’s breasts, but for now, focus on tracing circles around her areola with the tip of your tongue, afterwards… Just as breasts come in all shapes, sizes and colors, women’s preferences during breast play will differ. Some women may love having their nipples twisted or bitten while others might find this painful. Also, breast sensitivity changes with our menstrual cycles, so what we may literally like one week, we won’t stand the next. The mysterious rhythm of our bodies is kind of exciting!

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Butt Plugs

Anal sex play for men sounds scary for some, but in fact, it can be one of the most stimulating and enjoyable activities in the bedroom. Butt plugs often stimulate the prostate to greatly enhance sexual experience! When it comes to choosing the best anal sex toys for men, most of it comes down to preference because only you know what you can handle back there! Choosing the right butt plug can feel like a daunting task with all the variety, shapes, sizes, colors and options out there, but perhaps a helpful tip is to decide the purpose of the stimulator you are looking for. If you're shopping for butt plugs, do you want ones that stimulates the prostate, stretches the anal ring, or do you want them just to look good? There are all sorts of anal sex toys out there. From dildos to prostate massagers to butt plugs and more, when it comes to the best anal sex toys for men, there is something for everyone, here are but a few highly recommended butt plugs: BRUNO by LELO Created by LELO, one of the leaders in adult products, BRUNO is a prostate massager that brings  ultimate satisfaction. BRUNO contains two powerful motors at both of its tapered ends: the base for dual satisfaction and the curved tip for powerful and pleasureful prostate stimulation. Designed to be hands-free, it contains six different vibration settings at the touch of a button to offer a more powerful climax and longer lasting pleasure. And since it is waterproof, the fun can be taken anywhere. This luxurious prostate massager is designed to stay in place and its shape, size and performance offer intense stimulation. Ditto by We-Vibe  Created by We-Vibe, Ditto is the perfect butt plug for easing into the joys of anal play. Ditto's soft  silicone design can be oriented in several positions, allowing you to find what is most pleasurable for you, whether you're playing solo or with your partner. Quiet and waterproof, the Ditto comes with a USB charging cable and can last for up to two hours of play. Included remote control allows you to easily switch between modes without sacrificing the excitement of the moment. Ten preset vibration patterns are just the start: customize your rhythm or give a partner control by using with the We-Connect application. NJOY Pfun Plug  The nJoy Pfun Plug is a stainless steel prostate massager carefully designed to mimic the curves of the body and hit just the right spot. Its stainless steel construction includes a larger rounded head, and a second smaller bulge for additional stimulation. It can be controlled by hand, or by the user's own muscles. It is durable, long-lasting and easily sanitized.

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Dominant vs. Submissive!

Walking on the wild side isn’t just a song it’s a way to ignite a desire in your relationship, now your partner has asked you to take part in a Dominant-submissive role in the bedroom (lucky you). There is nothing more exciting than having your partner wanting to continue sexual exploration now while a part of you is elated, a part of you is overwhelmed by the concept. Never fear, but don’t be scared go into play with an open mind. Okay so let’s break things down for you, most of a Dominant's role is merely vocalizing what they want the submissive to do.  Dominant’s here is the situation do not ask, but instead demand. Command your submissive in a clear and explicit manner, making sure there is no misunderstands as to what you want. Remember, the submissive’s job is to please you. An excellent movie to watch for further references is “The Secretary” pay close attention to parts in the film where Mr. Grey asks for no errors to be made in his paperwork, he keeps it direct. Ladies and gentlemen also, understand that submissive partners don't have to act submissive to be one. Submissive’s can prefer having someone else make the decisions for them about how intimacy is going to be played out. Dominant  vs. Submissive: So let’s break down each subcategory what is a Dominant/Sir/ Mistress/Top? A dominant is a partner who takes the role of giver or controller in all acts of BDSM play performed on a submissive. Many Dominants will incorporate all aspects of being a Top but this is not universal. While a Dominant will take care of their submissive, they will be giving orders or otherwise employ physical or psychological techniques of control. they might instruct the submissive to perform the act on them. A Dominant might be a sadist but is unlikely to be a masochist.   Submissive: Now let’s explore submission, so what is submission or being submissive? Submission is when your partner voluntary and consensually aggress to allow the Dominate complete control over their body’s and sometimes their minds. Submission is wanting to or being willing to submit to orders or wishes of another. Showing an inclination in this way. An overriding desire to be pleasing. Willingly submitting without resistance to authority. Being subservient or servile. Enjoying erotic activities in feeling powerlessness or under the control of another. As a submissive, you can always and should always say NO to any play that is making you uncomfortable during play (utilize your safe word). Voice your Dominance: When giving commands to your submissive, you will want to pay close attention to the tone you use (A submissive is someone who's into it for the joy of submission, not just someone who likes being dominated in bed, the primary desire is to please the D-type.) A command given in a weak tone will only result in a multitude of giggles. If you are telling your submissive to drop to their knees, it must be said with authority and conviction. Bear in mind that you do not have to shout commands. You are not a drill sergeant. Being able to whisper a command with real authority is the goal. After all, if you were asked to take part in a Dominant role, it's the dominance your partner wants. Let your inner alpha out. Giving commands may vary depending on the form of "play" you intend to have. The more "sensual" BDSM comes with lighter tones informing your submissive they are there to please you first. This is an excellent way to practice tone with your submissive. When you are ready for rougher BDSM a heavier tone with ridged commands is more fitting. Remember, there is no need to shout, just be assertive. Once the tone has been established making your place known is critical. To do this, you must determine what your submissive is to call you. “Master/Mistress” and "Sir/Miss” are the more common. Then it is time to choose how you will address your submissive. "Submissive" tends to be quite popular, however, more unique names are best “pet, little, pup, boy etc.  Be nontraditional, and utilize words that come naturally to you and your partner. With your tone under control and your Dominant-submissive titles in place, you will both need to determine safe zones and safe words. These will be used by the submissive to let the Dominant know whether it is okay to move forward or it is time to stop. It is essential to keep the chosen words simple and easily remembered by both parties while in the thralls of passion. For example, you can utilize colors such as "blue" to say it is okay to intensify and "red" to indicate that he/she needs to back away from that play.   Dominant Safety: As a Dominant, the number one rule above all others is to stop immediately when the submissive says "NO." You are to proceed no further if this word is said. If you are practicing bondage at the time, untie the submissive at once. This could be an indication of a malfunctioning knot or circulation being cut off. For the safety of your submissive, always adhere to the word "NO" without question. The next important thing, do not rush into inflicting "pain." Begin slowly, then increase the verbosity. For example, light smacks or spankings either via hand or tool, such as a paddle. Always maintain communication with your submissive by asking "Do you like this/that?" or "Is this/that good?" and "Do you want more?" Here is an excellent time to practice the use of safe zones and to hone your communication skills. For example, blue for more, red for less. If you have a submissive that is a pain slut here is a list of play sessions, you can explore: Corporal punishment: Corporal punishment can include slapping, whipping, beating, and spanking a partner with their consent. Although this may sound ghastly to some who are unfamiliar with the community, enduring corporal punishment may help the submissive experience a release and pleasure. In the BDSM community/Lifestyle, masochists who enjoy pain may derive extreme pleasure from corporal punishment. Another reason that others may enjoy corporal punishment is that many people find sexual stimulation and heightened pleasure from pain. Corporal punishment is bodily harm and pain inflicted on a partner in a BDSM relationship. Heavy consent must be ensured between the two parties to create a safe environment. When done under the right circumstances, this practice can be pleasurable for both parties. Always Practice Safe, Sane & Consensual, SSC, RACK & PRICK awareness. Medical Play:  The Doctor is in and ready to give you a check-up, or maybe you want to be a nurse and check on your patient. So what exactly is medical play? This is another form of role play where you can utilize clinical objects to fulfill a fantasy such as respiratory therapy, gynecological exams, urological exams, rectal temperatures, enemas, injections and so much more. The lust for this fetish are the medical exam tables, the initial medical exam, restraining the patient onto the bed rendering them helpless to doctor’s exams and or orders. I would highly recommend first-time players not to play with needles and or any devices that could harm or cause death to your partner, play with extreme caution. Religious Play:  How about a day of sin and redemption?  Have you ever fantasized about having sex in your local church? Well here is your chance to role-play this fantasy out, bring out your priest and nun costumes and turn on the heat. During this type of  play you can have your submissive confess all their sins and as punishment, you can spank, flog, cane and paddle your submissive into complete forgiveness bliss. Although it can be similar to corporal punishment the difference in this play is the religious undertones in which you and your partner chose to enjoy. Turning up the Heat: If you're ready to take things up a notch, then make it clear you intend to go harder to prepare your submissive. If you find you are ready for intense spanking and or punishment, tell you're submissive so; “I’m going to spank you now” for example. Give the submissive a moment to mull it over so they can indicate that they too are prepared to move further. This aids in keeping you both on the same page. All acts of play must be consensual and have been discussed before any form of play is initiated (there should be very limiting surprises.) As mentioned before, communication is key to a successful BDSM encounter. Always remember to praise your submissive for their obedience and a job well done. A simple "well done" or "good girl" goes a long way with someone whose soul purpose is to please you. Aftercare: Now let’s talk about aftercare, so after your submissive/lover has gifted you with their total trust in allowing you to have heavy impact play on their body, yes even a spank can trigger someone to go into suppressed emotions and or feelings. As the Dominant, it’s your role and responsibility to provide them with some time to recover. I highly suggest an embrace so that you both can feel close, followed by a massage. Have a first aid kit ready as to perhaps add ointment to any wounds, Neosporin, band-aids and perhaps some Tylenol to lessen the pain. Have a blanket, water or juice ready to level out the high adrenaline from the body. Lastly, give each other time to really attend to the heighten emotions play can bring. Now about Science, a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine suggests that BDSM practitioners may have less anxiety and enjoy more security in their relationships than their vanilla counterparts. Researchers surveyed 902 BDSM practitioners and 434 non-participants and found that those who enjoyed BDSM-related activities had shared certain psychological characteristics, like being "less neurotic, more extroverted, more open to new experiences, more conscientious and less rejection-sensitive" than the control (or vanilla) group. In short practicing, some kinky play into your sex lives will make you a lot less stressed. Thank you to the good doctors of medicine for debunking that diving deep into our sexuality fetish side is not a deviant act and or for those that have physiological distress. For a Dominant-submissive relationship:  You must be willing to push and explore. Do your research and choose an activity, position, or tool beyond what you think is reasonable. See how your partner responds. You may be surprised. It's these surprises that help form a connection between you and your submissive. Teaching your partner exactly how to please you and learning how to please them is one of the most rewarding aspects, one that will carry over into other areas of your relationship.

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Don't be boring - pick the position that fits the mood!

Knowledge is power, especially when it comes to sexual positions. Beyond what you see in the fantasy  world of movies, there is actually a step-by-step process for sexual positions and rich sexual experiences. While you already know the infamous missionary and doggy style positions, do you know which to use based on the mood you and your lover are seeking? Do you know which positions are best accentuated by her wearing heels, and which are better for a partner who wants to feel in control? Whether you're looking for a fast and furious orgasm or a long and sensuous night of holding one another, the position you choose is almost as important as how well you execute it. Let's explore five of my favorite sex positions to explore with your lover. Saddle up and ride (Cowgirl) The man lies flat on his back. The woman kneels, facing him, and lowers herself onto his erection. During intercourse, the man can either remain still (men don’t just lay there either) or thrust upward; All the movement will be done by the woman. Using her legs, she can move up and down, sliding the penis through her vagina or, using her hips, she can revolve her vagina around the penis; or, she can do both simultaneously, literally "screwing" her vagina onto the man's penis for a truly sensational orgasm. The big advantage of the woman is that she can control the rate and depth of entry, and move her body in such a way as to cause maximum clitoral stimulation—thus best pleasing herself. It also allows the man to massage her breasts as they are in this incredible position. Take a seat (Man Sitting)  The man sits down, either on the side of the bed or, preferably, on a couch or large easy chair so that he can lean back. The woman kneels over his penis, straddling his hips with her knees, and slowly lowers herself onto him. This is similar to the cowgirl position, except that the woman's breasts are more accessible to the man's mouth and he can kiss, bite, and suck her nipples during intercourse. He is also easily able to reach around and grab her buttocks as she moves up and down on his lap. Love On Top (Woman Elevated)  The woman lies flat on her back on top of a table or other waist-high elevation (a desk, for example, is perfect for sex in the office). She spreads her legs, allowing easier access to her vagina. As the man stands between her open legs, she can pull them back, bent at the knees; lift them straight up to form a V; or, wrap them around the man's waist, with her heels digging into the small of his back. The man can either stand up straight, grasping the woman by her waist and pulling her toward him as he thrusts into her; or, he can lean over her, resting his weight on his hands, and use his leg muscles to aid in penetration. Sex In Numbers (69)  As youths, we all whispered that this stood for "6 minutes of pleasure, 9 months of waiting," but now we all know that 69 is a visual depiction of mutual oral sex. The 69 is often referred to by its French translation, soixante neuf, for indeed it was the French who perfected the art of sexually satisfying your partner with your mouth and tongue (hence, the "French kiss"). In the 69, the woman lies on her back. The man kneels over her, with his head positioned over her vagina and his penis hanging down over her mouth. As the woman pleasures his penis, grasping its root with her hand, the man licks her clitoris while cupping her buttocks. For added satisfaction, as his tongue plays over her clit, his fingers can slide into her vagina and tickle her anus. Of course, in the 69 the woman can be on top.  Fine Dinning (Cunnilingus)  This is the most unselfish sexual act the man can perform. The woman lies flat on her back, perhaps with a pillow under her buttocks. With her head back, she closes her eyes and relaxes as the man kneels between her legs, spreads her labia with his fingers, and applies the tip of his tongue to her clitoris. By alternating the speed with which he licks her love button, first slow, then fast, the man can dictate the woman's orgasm. For example, as soon as he senses she is about to climax, he can slow down his tongue action, prolonging the build-up. Just when she is about to climb the walls from this teasing, he can apply quick flicks, up and down or in circles around her clitoris until she explodes in an exquisite orgasm, experiencing waves of orgasms through out her body.

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Forget getting rich - Sex is the real key to happiness!

What if someone where to tell you that adding a healthy dose of sex to your week would make you happier than being a millionaire? In fact, a few studies have shown that it increases their mood and allows you to have a greater sense of satisfaction with your life. Psychologists explore why people who have more sex are happier. The freedom to share the pleasure of touch, of the relaxation of the muscles, the delight in giving such pleasure to others, and of receiving their warmth and affection; all this can have a profoundly beneficial effect on a person's health, both mental and physical health. Now let’s talk about some of the incredible benefits associated with sex once a week. Sex can make both men and women look between five and seven years younger than they actually are. Looking younger carries with it a whole suite of benefits such as increased confidence, happiness, and enthusiasm. Physical intimacy can trigger the release of several chemicals in the brain including: Dopamine - which plays a major role in reward-motivated behavior, focuses attention and generally increases motivation Endorphins – our body’s natural pain and stress fighters, and Oxytocin – affectionately known as “the love hormone”, which can trigger feelings of compassion. After an orgasm, the body releases the hormoneprolactin which often leads to drowsiness and a general feeling of relaxation. Comfort ultimately resulting in sleep is a common post-orgasm response.   The Relative Health Benefits of Different Sexual Activities Sex can break a daily routine and excite one’s life, including relationships filled with routine. Spontaneous sex can keep relationships lively, create cherished memories, and remind couples why they fell in love in the first place. Partners occasionally lose sight of such things in the face of routine. We as human beings crave closeness. And, there's nothing more intimate between a couple than bare-skin  contact with someone you love. There is a reason that mothers are encouraged to hold their babies against their bare skin moments after birth – it creates bonding. When you're in love, something as simple as laying your head on your partner's bare chest and listening to their heartbeat can significantly increase your mood after a bad day. In short, I recommend making time to have sex once a week, not once a month, or thrice a year. And, don’t just talk or dream about it; sex is medicine for the body. Aside from promoting incredible feelings, spontaneous sex helps to keep relationships healthy. Intimacy helps us communicate with our partners holistically. Sex, especially with someone you love, is unbiased, wonderful and soul-pumping. Each time, its hard not to feel refreshed and anew.

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Full Body Orgasms!

Can woman really reach the ever so elusive, squirting full body orgasm? Many women and men think squirting is but a myth or urine. The fact of the matter is – all women can squirt. But like full body orgasming, it’s a learned act that takes time and exploration to acquire. Once a woman learns how to do it, she’ll be able to repeat it for years. Now ready to learn how? Ladies and gentlemen, get out those pens and take notes. Preparations for Full Body Orgasm Before you can make any woman squirt or have a full body orgasm, you need to make sure she’s ready. Open honest communication works best perhaps telling her that you are planning a romantic night catered to her desires. Be confident with your approach and delivery, all woman love confidence. The bed, set towels down or water proof sheets (yes, they do exist). Squirting and full body orgasms are an all or nothing affair. She’ll either explode fluids, or nothing will come out. There’s no middleman. Foreplay Required for Full Body Orgasm Foreplay is necessary to warm any woman up, and the most critical step to any full body orgasm. With regards to squirting, I strongly suggest you do foreplay for a longer period than you usually do. Take your time to remove her clothes, and give her body plenty of love with your hands and mouth. Foreplay should last at least 30 minutes. Penetration for Full Body Orgasm At this point you need to decide if you’re going to make her squirt with your hand, a sex toy, or your penis. No matter what device you use, the technique is the same. However, you want to commit to one choice before you start having sex. Start by inserting your fingers into her vagina…find the G-Spot. This is accomplished by finding the rough patch on the upper side of the vagina. Once you’ve located the target, give her the “come hither” movement by pulling your fingers towards you to stimulate the G-Spot. Rub this for a few minutes, and the action should start preparing the squirting process along with a full body orgasm. By this point, she should be responding well to this and giving you hints that you are getting closer to the mission at hand. The big differentiator between a regular orgasm and a squirting orgasm is simple – when she’s ready to squirt, she’ll feel like she has to pee. If she feels like this, tell her it’s ok and keep going. When she feels like she has to pee, and she’s close to full body orgasm ready…   Pull Out for Full Body Orgasm Gentlemen you heard me right. Pull out. She can’t squirt if you’re inside of her blocking the passage of fluids. Pull out, and if she hasn’t full body orgasmed yet, begin clitoral stimulation. This will drive her over the edge of full body orgasm, if she isn’t there already. Continue stimulating her citreous, and if she doesn’t orgasm, go back to the G-Spot and repeat the cycle. That’s it! I don’t have to tell you what it’ll be like when she has a full body orgasm. You’ll know. What if she can’t squirt? Even if you’ve read this entire article, and applied every single tactic shared, it’s possible that your girl can’t reach that orgasm. I highly suggest you take the time to talk about why. Do not get discouraged or disappointed, sometimes the human body and mind just require more time for stimulation and/ or introducing new sensations. The trick is to continue discovering and playing with your lover’s body until you feel they have reached that incredible full body orgasm.

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How To Use A Dildo!

Being a founder of an adult product retail store, I come across a lot of questions in the sex toy industry. One that I continue to hear whispers about is that women are interested in Dildos but not exactly sure how to use it. First, I want to say is IT IS OKAY, it is normal to have questions about using a dildo especially if your new to sex toys. There is no need to whisper to a friend behind a locked door about the possibility of getting one. This is the 21st century and sex, sex toys, and dildos are flying around all over the place! Don’t believe me? Just go on any social media platform and search Lelo, Diskret, or Crave. Hundreds of thousands of people are following these sex toy companies and not ashamed of the joys and pleasure they bring to them on a daily basis. A dildo is usually a starter or entry level toy that still brings the most “bang for your buck” in todays sex toy industry. Why is this? It usually consists of a long straight or slightly curved shaft and some form of a knob(s) on the end to resemble the head of a penis. The design is simple and usually it is made of silicone or glass, which are cheaper materials to manufacture with. The Dildo History: But before we dive into a step-by-step on how to use one… Lets look at the history and see if your generation is the first to try dildos. The first known dildo found was in Germany near Ulm and it dates back over 30,000 years! No, I didn’t make a mistake and add an extra zero or two. Our ancestor’s ancestors knew what dildos were and were using them all the time! Archeologists have found “devices” shaped exactly like a penis, that dates back even to earlier times but the exact function of these “dildos” are labeled as unknown. Also, our ancestors were not ashamed of sharing the fact they used them. They embraced them so much: as putting them on huge pieces of art that are still around today. For instance the Shakespeare’s “A Winter’s Tale” and many Greece vases have dildos painted on them, clear as day! But what were they made of back then? They didn’t have hand blown glass, or high temp silicone compound molds?! Guess what, if you can think of it, chances are someone has shoved it in their body. Yes, even everything or anything available to them at that time, like wood, stone, bone, bread, vegetables, and rocks. You name it, they used it! The Types of Dildos: So the fact they have been around since the “stone age” means they must have evolved some right? Yes and no, Diskret offers hand polished crystals or stones that many women rave about today. So that hasn’t changed, however the technology and manufacturing has changed of course. So lets start with the basics. The realistic dildo : is your standard silicone dildo, shaped like a penis. They come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Up until about 15 years ago, these were your only dildo options. It was a big game changer when it came in black or white. Meaning you want your black guy or white guy, just the penis, without the guy along for the ride. You want large, small, or medium you have many choices for length and girth. If you have not used one before, I suggest starting small, they are extremely affordable and if its not doing the deed, it easy enough to order up a new larger one. The glass dildo: is another highly rated adult product. These are known for the fact they are very hygienic. Glass is much less porous than silicone. Which means it doesn’t hold bacteria as much and can be cleaned with ease. You can even throw most into the dishwasher for a super scrub. I usually clean mine by hand under running water and anti-bacterial soap. Glass dildos are becoming more popular due to the amazing designs and shapes they come in. Some are so beautiful you want to display them on shelve like a piece of art for all to see! The colors really pop when the light catches them, not to mention they feel amazing. A lot of bend and twist allows you to hit the right spot. So, once you find that magical glass dildo shape, you should never leave it. They not only feel amazing but are great for temperature play. Just run your glass dildo under warm or cold water before using it for a totally new sensation. The luxury dildo: These are a personal favorite and important to the industry. The sex toy industry has had a bad reputation for cheap, unsafe, and ridiculous looking objects that only the brave souls would try. Well times have changed and so have the brands, the dildo has now become an object in over 60% of all women’s night stands throughout the U.S. (if you are over the age of 18). So if you don’t own one, that’s okay but understand you’re now the anomaly in America. A few brands have carved themselves out as someone who takes their pleasure seriously. They offer quality, reliable, and extremely pleasurable adult products. Some of the industry top rated adult products can be found at: Diskret Lelo Crave Njoy The double ended dildo: This is a favorite in the lesbian arena, but can also be used for double penetration by solo women, or even a women with a man. They are usually made with same diameter ends but some are made to pump one end larger than the other. These are typically made of silicone or stainless steel. This is not something I would consider a beginner adult product unless you discuss the use of one with your partner ahead of time. The strap-on dildo: These are also most common in the lesbian sex toy industry. It is a harness that “straps on” and holds a dildo of your choosing or has a built in dildo already. Make sure you and your partner are familiar with the dildo before strapping it on and using it. Go slow to start, for if you have not used one before you can overpower your partner into feeling pain or discomfort from the size and girth. Remember to use plenty of lube and communication throughout the process, a simple “faster” or “slower” is all that you need to bring the ultimate pleasure to both of you. Safety First: Just because it comes in a box that says dildo, and it looks like a sex toy does not mean you should shove it in your body! I can not emphasize this enough. Of course, dildos are an amazing way to spice up your sex life and can be the most pleasurable experience you have ever had. I am not trying to scare you, but simply want you to be aware of what you put in your body. Just like all amazing experiences, there is risk involved if you are ignorant. First thing I would do is check the manufacturing company or retail company. What is there reputation like. If you can’t find an official looking website, chances are, they are not a regulated manufacturer or brand. Second is look at the material it is made of. If the material is porous it can hold bacteria. Not all silicone, silicon, and silica gel is safe! Avoid purchasing sex toys off Amazon, Ebay, and AliExpress. These are a breeding ground for low quality dildos with zero regulations on material and packaging. Like stated earlier, stainless steel dildo is the safest, then glass (low quality cheap glass can be unsafe depending on how they add the color), then your silicone based products. Simply be aware of who makes it and who sells it is your best bet. Remember to use lube! If you have not used a dildo before, remember you really cannot go wrong with a natural lube, the more the better. Lubes come in a variety of types. Check out Dangerouslilly for the ultimate lube safety guide. I recommend a natural lube to start, even pure coconut butter from your kitchen can be the best solution (if you know you are not allergic)! Lastly, remember to clean the dildo once you are done. If it is glass or stainless steel, most can be thrown into the dishwasher. You can also just use warm water and anti-bacterial soap. If you do not clean them, your risk for yeast infection increases drastically. Also, many companies make a cleaner spray you can use to wipe it down with as well. STEP-BY-STEP Picking A Dildo First step is purchasing one. This is a big hurdle for a first-time user since most retailers offer an enormously overwhelming selection. For this exact reason Diskret keeps total inventory of all products to less than 150 pieces. If your overwhelmed this is a natural state of mind. Start with breaking it down by size. You need to find something that is slender and not to long. I would recommend something around 1.5” or less in diameter and under 8” in length. Next, break it down by geometry. Don’t go to wild to start, not until you know and understand your body. Go for a slight curve to help the g-spot, a bulb or two at the end, or plain straight like the tower may work. Once you have built a collection of dildos and you want to branch out into different styles and geometry, you can get just about anything you can imagine. Even fun and corky stuff like geeky sex toys. Next, pick the material. Stay away from jelly, rubber, pvc, cyberskin,or UR3. For one they smell funny, not made of high quality, and some have phthalates. You want something non porous and easy to clean. If you get something silicone make sure the brand is very trusted, and is actually pure silicone. Some silicone is soft, some is firm, and others are squishy. If you decide on silicone just be aware of odors, discoloration or anything you see visually odd with it. Finally pick your price range. Remember as for most things “you get what you pay for” when it comes to sex toys. At the same time if this is your first dildo, you may want to stay in the mid-range. You don’t know your body yet, and you could outgrow your dildo fast if the size is not enough for you, or if the geometry isn’t doing the trick. Once you understand what your body craves, you can start dishing out more for the higher end products. Again go with a trusted brand or retailer and you should be fine. I advise staying away from Amazon, Ebay, and AliExpress because you never really know what you’re going to get, a lot of cheap manufacturing company’s display dildos on these sites. How to Use A Dildo: So now that you have the entire background and history on dildos, how the heck do I use one the right way? Even if you plan to use a dildo with a partner the best start is trying it on your own and becoming comfortable with it. You will know what if feels like, less self-conscious, and won’t have to worry so much about your partner and just focus on how it feels. Once you purchased your dildo, you need to find a quite and location that is private. Give yourself plenty of time! I can’t say this enough, if your rushed on the first time, it will not bring the most pleasure. Odds are even if its your millionth time being rushed is never the best scenario, the “quickie” has its place but not on your first go around. So now that you have your beginner dildo, a quiet, private place with plenty of time let the fun begin! You should start by turning yourself on, same as you would with out a dildo. Just keep calm and relaxed, you don’t need to use the dildo at this stage, your hand will do just fine. Start out slow… Now that you are turned on you can add a little lube to the dildo and start by rubbing yourself with it. Start with exterior play until you are highly turned on and everything is well lubricated. You can massage or stimulate more than just the clitoris, you can massage your nipples, anus, and labia. Think of it as teasing yourself and build up for the moment of penetration. Slowly penetrate with the dildo. Again, start slow and work your way to a speed that feels the most pleasurable. Test it our by moving it in different motions until you hit that perfect spot. Play with the speed and rhythm. Once you understand what speeds and motions you enjoy and at what stage of the process you want it, make sure to relay this to your partner when you use it with them. You can either communicate it openly or show them by guiding their hand or having them watch you do it. Now finally once you have the speed and motion down you can climax from the penetration. However, many women cannot climax from penetration alone but need external clitoral stimulation as well. If that is the case you can use the dildo in one hand and rub your clitoris with the other! Understand the Big-O. Again this is about understanding your own body and what it craves most. Some women like fast strokes with the dildo throughout their orgasms others like slow, some like no motion at all. Just know what you like during your orgasm and have fun with it! Never take things to seriously. If you don’t orgasm from the dildo the first time don’t worry about it. You can take your time and develop whatever process works best for you. If you try many times and it’s just not working, again don’t worry because there are a million adult products out there and I say never give up on trying to find the next best dildo for you! In Conclusion: Now that you have the ultimate guide for pleasure at your disposal, go have fun! Using a dildo by yourself to learn and understand your body will make sex with a partner much more enjoyable. Don’t be afraid to bring the dildo out with your partner and use it on them or have them use it on you. This especially comes in handy if you came first and your partner didn’t achieve their orgasm yet. Just whip out the trusty dildo and finish them off! Remember sex toys are here to bring pleasure. So keep it light, have fun, and test out this new amazing avenue in your life. You will not regret it!

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How to Eat a Girl Out!

Maybe you want to know how to eat a girl out for the first time, or perhaps you’ve done it hundreds of times and wondering if you’re approaching it the right way. Most guys and women are always searching for that better sexual experience, whether it be through trying new and exciting things, or through mastering sexual techniques such as how to eat a girl out. We have put together a lot of research from women who get oral sex performed on them regularly and bundled their testimonies into an easy-to-follow guide. We also consulted some of the top sexologist in the field to validate the testimonies. These tips are from real women, straight & lesbian; this is your complete guide on how to eat a girl out. How to Eat a Girl Out 101: There are some very basic things when understanding how to eat a girl out, somethings might seem like common sense. Believe us, they get missed ALL THE TIME! So next time you go down on a girl remember these very basic tips to start off on the right page. Once you miss a step or two, you might have already spoiled the whole sexual experience! Let her know you want to go down on her: Seems confusing to have to tell her you get pleasure from it too. But let her know how long you’ve been thinking of doing this, how bad you want to do it. The fact you get pleasure from pleasing her will be a big turn on for her. In today’s societies women are so frequently body shamed and held to such a high standard. Tell her how sexy you find her, tell her how bad you want to kiss every inch of her body and then give her that pleasure! Remind her how good she looks, smells, and tastes. This will ultimately allow her to relax and fully enjoy the sexual experience. Don’t Assume anything… Communicate! Whether you’re a woman or man, if you’re sleeping with a woman for the first time, you don’t know exactly what she wants. Even if you’re a woman, don’t fall into the trap of thinking every woman likes the same thing. Just because you like long slow licking doesn’t mean she will to. If you want to know how to eat a girl out, you must start basic and simply ask if she prefers “this” or “that”. Sometimes you can tell by body language if she is enjoying it or not such as moaning, orgasming, or a pull of your hair to direct you elsewhere. Never shy away from a simple, “how do you like that?” “Do you want it this way or that way?” Also pay attention to your speed. Start slow and rhythmic and build in speed and pressure over time. If you start to fast and furious she may feel pressured to orgasm quickly, when that is not the intended goal in this case. Slow down… Understanding how to eat a girl out.  When understanding how to eat a girl out, you must first learn to slow it way down… According to Jessica O’Reilly, PhD, creator of the Drive Her Wild With Pleasure, the first thing to keep in mind when eating a girl out is slow it down! An orgasm is a slow build in sexual anticipation and pleasure, not a race. “However fast you think is a good pace… cut it in half… then cut that in half again. Trust me!” How to eat a girl out by building anticipation. When things start heating up and you know you want to go down on her, this will most likely be a big turn on for yourself as well. When you get turned on you might be tempted to rush to the finale. But don’t sell yourself short, hold off know matter how hard it might be. Start slow and ramp the heat up will ultimately lead to the most pleasure. Build anticipation by touching, caressing, kissing, licking and breathing all over her body in a slow and controlled pace. Make her wait until she can’t stand it one more second! Then start licking the sweet spots…   The Technique Involved in How to Eat A Girl Out: We talked about building the anticipation, to slow the pace down, and use communication when learning how to eat a girl out. But what about the actual process? What’s the best way to eat a girl out?! Here are some techniques to use when going down on her for her ultimate pleasure and orgasmic release!   How to eat a girl out with using your breath: Most of us overlook one of the best weapons in our sexual arsenal; using our breath while eating a girl out. If you find this strange, you’re not alone. But using your breath can build sexual anticipation like crazy. “By exhaling slowly to release warm air from deep in your chest or purse your lips and breath gently to release cool air.” Use this temperature play to drive her wild. You can even lick a long wide path over her vagina and then breath warm air slowly over the top of it.   How to eat a girl out with circular motion: When you build up the anticipation to a max with your breath and foreplay, don’t disappoint with poor clitoral technique. Use slow circular motions with your tongue along the edges of the vagina then get closer and closer to the clitoris. Once over the top, don’t press it with your tongue, but slow circular motions around it to tease it before pressing your flat, wide tongue against it gently to allow the pressure to build up. How to eat a girl out with pulse motion: When she climaxes, she will experience pleasurable contractions that stem from the pelvic area all the way to her clitoris. Give them a helping hand by pressing a wide flat surface against the length of her vulva or the head of her clitoris and pulse gently. You can use your tongue, hand, or vibrating sex toy to achieve this.   How to eat a girl out with clitoral concentration: The vast majority of women require some form of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. S ome women like direct contact while others enjoy side stimulation. You can simply ask which way she prefers it or start with a wide circular motion around the clitoris without actually touching it. Then slowly work your way in until your doing small tight circles on top of the clitoris head. See what she responds best to. But again, take your time and make it last! You can experiment with a flat wide tongue, or the pointy tip of your tongue. You can do long strokes from top to bottom, or from one side to the other. Some women really enjoy sucking motion on the clitoris. So pulse suck, in and out, slowly over the clit. How to eat a girl out; Break Time: Yea I said it… break time! Guess what, when your going down on a girl for an extended amount of time you will require a break. After building the anticipation and slowly building the pleasure… there may be a time your neck, tongue, lungs, or back need a break from the position and licking. That is where your hands come into play! Don’t be afraid to use your hands; fingering her vagina, while your licking the clit. Or simply back out for a minute and let your hands do all the stroking. A lot of women like the combination of clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration. The orgasms are a “blended orgasm” and feel much more intense than from a single source. You can move your hand in and out or use the “come here” motion with your fingers on her G-spot. You can also use your fingers to trace the folds of her labia, there are tons of sensitive nerves in these areas. How to eat a girl out with consistence: A lot of people make oral sex too complicated. When in reality a couple simple techniques are all you really need. Don’t go flying through these techniques trying to jam them all into one session. Rather, slow controlled strokes, rhythmic in pace and consistent is what will build the pleasure to an orgasm. “Most women require consistency, not tongue gymnastics to reach orgasm.” Once you receive body language from her that she enjoys a technique, stick with it! How to eat a girl out when she starts to cum:  Once she starts to cum, don’t stop and pat yourself on the back. You’re not done yet! Once she starts to cum, keep going! Unless she specifically tells you to stop once she is done. Otherwise, hold her hips in place and continue to swirl your tongue around her vulva while fingering her. If you have ever heard a girl say she “came hard” it is most likely due to this reason. Keep it going for ultimate pleasure. Use a sex toy while going down on her:           Want to hit “expert level” on knowing how to eat a girl out? Once you have developed the basics with your partner, start to experiment with more. One of the best ways to do that is with a great lube and an amazing vibrator. Not only can you use a vibrator for penetration while you use your tongue on the clitoris. But you can also swap that and use the vibrator on her clitoris. They even make a vibrator special designed to stimulate oral sex found here. Keep in mind you want a lube that is eatable and works with a silicone sex toy. In that case it needs to be a water-based lube. It is highly unlikely you would be having oral sex in the water such as a hot tub or bath tub, in which case the oil-based lubes work better. Remember communication is key, a vibrator while using your hands, and tongue in other locations can simply overwhelm a girl. You should start basic and slowly work your way up in stimulation. Check in with her if you’re not sure if it is to overwhelming having so much going on at once. If you start slow most women will appreciate the blended orgasm these multi-stimulation techniques can bring. How to eat a girl out conclusion: In the end, remember to start basic. Most women really appreciate the fact you can go slow and take your time. Build the sexual anticipation over time, while teasing and kissing. Then get the hands involved and even a sex toy. Communicate constantly at least the first time, then you will know what she wants every time. Give some of the techniques listed above a try, you don’t have to use them all at once but if one works and the next is a strike-out, just back to what you know works best with her. Don’t over think it, the idea is to bring you both pleasure and if its not working… stop, and just try the next thing!

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How to Thrust like a Man

Men what if I was to tell you… you have so much sensuality and unexplored orgasmic sexual potential via your hips?  Most men approach sex in a very mechanical way why? Well there is no variation in speed, positions or thrusting techniques with the end result ends up being a robotic sex devoid of any  emotion (and it also shortens your lasting time dramatically). There is a serious lack of creativity among men when it comes to variety in their sex life which is a real shame. Growing up, men watch a lot of porn, and end up trying to emulate what the actors do. The problem is just that, these men are actors, and only do what looks good on camera, not what actually feels good. The other problem is that men are scared to try something new. Men get in the habit of doing the same thing every time, and that’s what men do in bed. Women go absolutely wild for men that surprise them and always keep them guessing in the bedroom. Keep her on her toes and spice up your sex life by constantly introducing new things in the bedroom that is the key to a happy and fulfilled sex life. One of the best ways you can accomplish this is with different thrusting techniques. The key here is to mix and match if you keep doing just one thing, no matter how good she feels in the moment, you will become predictable and she will get bored, which is a death sentence to your sex life. You can have the best technique in the world, but if you do the same “trick” for hours, the novelty will wear off. Avoid this by introducing new methods every few minutes. This’ll keep her coming back for more that night, the next day, and beyond. Here are a few tips to get you started: One of the easiest ways to introduce variety into your thrusting techniques is by changing the speed and tempo of your thrusting.  Go fast for 10-20 seconds, then pause and go really slow for the next minute. Have a dozen shallow thrusts before going all in with the deep ones. Vary the speed and depth that way she can’t predict what you will do next. Of course, common sense applies here. If she is grabbing you and telling you to go faster or deeper, don’t suddenly slow down that will just piss her off. Watch her reactions and modify to that. On the other hand, if you feel you are near an ejaculation, it would be best if you slow down. It’s usually best to start slowly and then escalate. If you’re just starting with sex, don’t start jackhammering right away. She might not be that wet yet and it will be unpleasant for her. Next, start off with slow thrusts for a few minutes and then introduce more speed and variety. Slow thrusts should be the opposite of wild jackhammering. Take your time and make sure your strokes are long, hard, and deep. To do this, you can use positions that don’t facilitate thrusting, but are great for deep penetration. This includes spoons position, or if you’re looking for a challenge, seated position. Sit upright in a chair or on the edge of the bed and have her straddle you, for deep penetration. Thrusting techniques are what it takes to deliver electrifying orgasms up and down your woman’s spine, but they’re only useful if you’ve got the stamina to take her down the path to pleasure. Studies have shown that the average duration of sex is a measly 6 minutes, but also, that most women require at least 15 minutes of penetration to orgasm. The best way, hands down, to rock her world is to last longer in bed. No matter what techniques you use, if you can’t control your orgasm, you’re facing an uphill battle to keep your woman satisfied in bed.

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How to Use a Vibrator!

Have you ever wondered exactly how to use a vibrator for the most pleasure? It’s come to our attention through research and testimonies most women are using their vibrator completely wrong! After reading through this guide of tips and examples for the next time you pull out your trusty vibrator, you will have a mind-blowing experience.

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How to have a Quickie!

You've seen it in movies over and over again. The couple, wild about one another, can't keep their hands off one another, and they end up having sex in a relatively public and risky location. Maybe you've even experienced it for yourself. The two of you flirt all night, and you can barely wait to make it back to your hotel room in order to tear the clothing off of each other. No matter how you've been introduced to the idea of quick sex, you're here because you want to learn how to have a quickie in public. You want the hot and risky sex, but you also don't want to get in trouble - and that's a fine line to walk. Luckily for everyone, learning how to have a quickie in public isn't all that hard. It's a matter of knowing what's going on and doing a bit of planning ahead. Using some of these step-by-step tips on how to have a quickie, you should find yourself fully ready to experience the intensity as soon as you want to. How to Have a Quickie “Plan Ahead”: I know, I know. When you're thinking about how to have a quickie, the idea of planning is supposed to be the furthest thing from your mind. It's supposed to be about passionate, gotta-have-it-now sex that you can't resist. But at the same time, planning ahead about how to have a quickie is how to make the experience run smoothly. If you don't plan ahead, you're at a much higher risk of getting caught - or just having a miserable experience because the "reality" was nothing like the fantasy. After all, if you're into the idea of having some hot, passionate sex in the alleyway behind your favorite bar, it might be a pretty miserable experience when it's nearly impossible to remove your leggings, the ground is disgusting and you don't want to touch it, and you both find out that it's painful penetration because you just didn't have enough foreplay or lube to really get warmed up. That's not fun for anyone. Planning ahead doesn't have to be boring and organizational. Instead, make it sexy. Instead of just jotting down possible locations on a list, fantasize about each location. How would you have sex there? Would you be bent over? What props in the nearby area could the two of you use? When you think about clothes, think about how they'll get pulled to the side. Think about how you'll see that mini-skirt in your closet in the future and be constantly reminded of that time behind the bar. Don't just add to a list: let each mark on the list become a point of fantasy for you. By the time you've finished planning on how to have a quickie, you'll be just as excited as when you have the quickie itself! That's definitely part of the fun, so don't let the idea of "planning" drag you down. How to Have a Quickie “Know Your Location”: This is something that will require you to head out and about to your favorite places - and the places where you think it'd be likely that you want to have a quickie. When thinking about how to have a quickie, you need to pick areas where you're likely to want to have a quickie. Scouting out a grocery store could be u seful, but if you don't usually feel turned on or flirtatious at the nearby store, that might not be a particularly useful location. Instead, pick to locations you'd likely be nearby when feeling turned on and flirty. Think about bars, hotel rooms, parks, alleyways, and similar areas. Once you've picked out the specific area, when trying to figure out how to have a quickie, you need to nitpick the area. Is it clean? What sex positions can you get into? How likely are you to run into anyone else? Are there any nearby props where you could bend over or prop yourself up? Will the temperature be comfortable during the day or night when you're going to be enjoying your quickie? Are there any sharp corners or objects the two of you could "hide" behind for an extra level of safety when enjoying your quickie? Let's think about your nearby hotel for an example of how to have a quickie in public. You might scout the hotel and find that there's an empty hallway at the far corner of the conference center. You'd guess that, around midnight when there isn't a conference, there won't be many people around. You check for security cameras. You see that the staff tends to store excess tables in this area - perfect for hiding behind when the two of you enjoy yourselves. Since it's indoors, the two of you aren't too worried about temperature. The hallway is only a short walk from the regular hallway of the hotel, so you know you have an easy escape plan - and you think you can sheepishly explain away that the two of you were "making out" if you happen to be discovered. For an added level of security, you might check under the table skirts and find that there's enough room for sex under the tables. You might think about doing that instead if you want to try a laying-down sex position. How to have a Quickie “Think about Your Clothes”: Part of how to have a quickie is well, making it quick. Clothing can make or break that quickness. If someone is wearing tight jeans that can't easily be pulled to the side without taking them entirely off, you might have a problem doing things discreetly and quickly. If you're dressed in so many layers that you can't even manage penetration because of clothing, that also might be a problem when you're trying to learn how to have a quickie. Instead, choose light clothing that can easily be pulled aside or removed. For male-dressing individuals, that may include looser jeans or sweatpants. You might consider going without underwear or choosing underwear you can easily pull out your penis from. Remember to think about the zippers on any potential clothing. Quickie sex is hot, but getting pinched from the zippers during sex is definitely not! For female-dressing individuals, you'll likely want to choose dresses or skirts. You may choose to go without underwear, or you might prefer a thong or other easily-moved-to-the-side panties. This is probably not the best night to go with your favorite bodysuit or shapewear. If wearing pantyhose or other items, you might prefer to go with a crotchless design. Keep in mind that quickie sex can involve less time to be gentle, so it's worth choosing your worn out pairs of hose instead of your favorites. Have a "Quickie Kit": Having a great quickie depends on having all of the right supplies. Your "Quickie Kit" will make sure that's the case. It's no fun to make it all the way to penetration - only to find out that you're missing the condom for safe sex. And before sex, the idea of walking around with wetness between your legs the rest of the night sounded hot, but after sex? Well, you wish you had some wet wipes to clean up after your sexual encounter. The "Quickie Kit" is your answer to preparing for how to have a quickie. In a small bag, you'll want to pack some necessary items. I recommend at least two condoms, a bottle of water-based lubricant that plays nicely with both your bodies, a sandwich baggie for garbage disposal, and a package of travel-friendly wet wipes to clean up after your escapade. Depending on the foreplay you have in mind, you might want to consider an extra pair of panties as well. All of these items fit into a small cosmetic case - and can be safely tucked into a backpack or purse on any night that you think you might be exploring how to have a quickie. Now you know tonight's the night. You've been doing all of your reading about how to have a quickie, and you've spent all of that time fantasizing and planning about how sexy and hot this is going to be. All the planning of how to have a quickie is out of the way. Now it's time to actually enjoy all that planning. Here are some simple suggestions to help make experiencing that quickie even better. How to have a Quickie “Know What Arouses You”: The night of your intended quickie, you both should stay focused on doing things that arouse you. If you know that grocery shopping is stressful and nonsexual, do it another day. If you both know that having a few beers and flirting over the bartop turns you on, do that instead. You might consider playing with some vibrators in public or just flirting with each other over the idea of what you're going to do in a few hours. I know that you spent quite a bit of time planning how to have your quickie, but in order for your quickie to seem like authentic and passionate public sex, you'll want to spend quite a bit of time focusing on arousing the two of you to the point of "no return". Sure, you’re planned this, but it doesn't mean that it needs to feel like it's been planned out! How to have a Quickie “Enjoy the Foreplay”: Like I previously mentioned, your focus should be on arousing one another and feeling highly turned on and aroused long before you even approach the idea of having penetrative sex! That means enjoying the foreplay - and sneaking some foreplay in public. Can you touch each other under the dinner table? Is there space for an impromptu make-out session by the bathrooms? Can you grind against one another on the dance floor? Can you gently run a hand between their legs as the two of you hug? There are lots of different ways to try to work in foreplay in a public space, and since the two of you will only have a little bit of time to do the actual penetration, it's really beneficial to get as turned on as possible now. How to have a Quickie “Be Turned On and Use Lube”: As I've mentioned before, being really turned on before you even make it to the penetrative sex is extremely important in how to have a quickie in public. You'll probably have less than five minutes to achieve the actual penetration and orgasm. For some people, that's not even long enough to get off! However, you'll up your chances of success if you can be as aroused as possible before you start. Don't forget to use lubricant too. Some people might be able to get slick enough for penetration without any physical stimulation, but some people may not. There's no reason to make penetration uncomfortable, so use a bit of the lubricant from that quickie kit! How to have a Quickie “Remember the Experience”: There's no point in having super hot quickie sex if you aren't going to savor it for awhile. If you're going out every night to have risky sex somewhere without savoring the experience or planning ahead, you're bound to get caught in a bad way - and that's not going to be fun. Instead, after reading how to have a quickie tips, don't expect to have your quickie often. Instead, savor the experience and let the memories of an evening of hot sex tide you over until the next time the two of you are ready to play in public again.

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Men Vs Prostate Cancer

Men masturbation should be an essential part of your daily self care routine, while a balanced diet and exercise have been imbedded into our “How to live a longer, happier life.” no one ever talks or educates men that masturbation should be added as health regiment as well. Experts have found that men who ejaculate almost every day have a lower risk of developing prostate cancer. The man in lab coats (scientist) conducted a study exploring the potential link between ejaculation and prostate cancer, researchers found that men aged between 40 and 49 who ejaculate at least 21 times a month were at less risk than those who did so four to seven times. Now let’s explore, the brilliant people at Harvard Medical School studied almost 32,000 men for 18 years. Some 3,839 of those were diagnosed with prostate cancer during that time. The lab coats also asked the men how often they ejaculated between the ages of 20 to 29, 40 to 49, and in 1991, which was the year before the survey began. The results showed that the men who ejaculated more frequently were less likely to develop the disease at all three points in the study. The findings also stayed the same when environmental factors including diet, lifestyle, and prostate cancer screening were considered. The researchers now hope to pinpoint why ejaculation reduces the risk of prostate cancer. Previous studies have suggested that ejaculation may lessen the likelihood by effectively “flushing out” cancer-causing agents. The disease is the most common cancer among men in the US, with 40,000 new cases diagnosed each year, according to the NCS. As the disease develops slowly, men often only become aware when the prostate is large enough to affect how the urethra carries urine. Yes, but why should ejaculating more often cut the risk of prostate cancer? The team speculates that ejaculation prevents carcinogens building up in the gland. The prostate, together with the seminal vesicles, secretes the bulk of the fluid in semen, which is rich in substances such as potassium, zinc, fructose and citric acid. Men this is not just limited to self love ahhhem masturbation; I am also suggesting more sexual activity with your partner. So now that you know the medical facts provided by the good scientist of the world, secure your healthy lifestyle by adding ejaculation to your a daily routine.

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Open Relationship

Monogamy is not for everyone. The hardest thing for some people is settling down with one person. Alt hough most of us were brought up being taught that you should be monogamous, this can be difficult for some people, who just aren't hard wired that way. For this and many other reasons, an open relationship has become the new trend in town. Before getting into an open relationship, there are a few conversations you should be sure to have with your partner. Taking these things into consideration can ensure that nobody gets hurt, and that the open relationship can fit both of your needs the way it should. Set Rules with Your Partner In modern times, finding partners can be fairly easy. However, having sex with multiple partners can bring about a lot of issues. If you are a couple trying to venture into an open relationship, you should first consider alternatives to spark up your own relationship. If either of you isn't actually ready for an open relationship, it can lead to a lot of pain and ultimately a breakup. If the issue is simply the amount or quality of sex you are having, try finding some ways to bring the passion back into your relationship. If you do decide to have an open relationship, make a set of rules with your partner. These boundaries are important, and can prevent anyone feeling betrayed by something that wasn't identified as concretely "wrong" before it happened. Recommended rules range from simple generalities to specifics involving people and places that cannot be touched as part of the open relationship: Honesty Safety first if you choose to have multiples partners No having sex with any of your mutual friends Respect each other Don't introduce any of your lovers to your partner You can set up a time limit if you are just trying the concept out No sex in the bed you share Setting rules and playing by these rules will ensure that, even though you guys are seeing other people, your relationship is still strong. The above rules are just a sample of practices used by many couples. You and your partner can create your own custom tailored set of rules to ensure that your relationship can grow. Can Your Relationship Withstand an Open Relationship? Having an open relationship can lead to more problems and even to the final breakup of your relationship if you haven't laid the proper foundation. So before jumping into an open relationship, ask yourself if your relationship is strong enough to withstand an open relationship. Although people may say that sex is just physical, it can increase your emotional bond with a partner, and an open relationship can therefore leave one or both of you less connected emotionally to the relationship. So before deciding to be in an open relationship, ensure that your relationship has a solid foundation. Ensuring that you guys have a good rapport and an open line of communication will make sure that your relationship survives and is even strengthened by this decision. However, if guys are having troubles in your relationship beyond the dissatisfaction with monogamy, having an open relationship could lead to the end of your relationship. You should first ensure that you work out your other issues before deciding on an open relationship. Communication and Honesty For any relationship to last, communication and honesty are essential. Honesty here starts with you. Be honest with yourself; can you handle sharing your partner? You should be honest with yourself and understand that someone else will be touching your partner and may be having better sex with them than you do. As a couple, you should maintain healthy communication with each other. Maintaining healthy communication will ensure that, even though you are sleeping with other people, your relationship is still a priority in your life. This means not lying about where you are on a Friday night. If the open relationship is a mutual agreement, it's important that you tell your partner where you are and who you're with, so that they don't worry you're breaking the rules you laid out together. Conclusion Everyone has a different view of an open relationship. Some see it as an essential while some think of it as a virus that needs to be eradicated from the society. However, for those who are having problems being in a monogamous relationship but truly love one another, an open relationship can be extremely beneficial. The important thing is to know what you're getting into.

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Relax, it's just Anal Sex

Once a taboo, anal sex is now seen as an enjoyable addition to many sexual relationships. So now your partner wants to give it a try. Perhaps they’ve tried it before and enjoyed it, or maybe it’s long been a fantasy of theirs (and maybe yours too). If so, you wouldn’t be alone. On the other hand, some people have a very clear idea that anal sex isn’t for them, and that’s totally fine too as nobody should ever do anything that feels in any way forced or uncomfortable. Well, if your partner wants to try anal sex and you don’t feel comfortable then be sure to say so. However, if you’re curious to give it a go then my advice is to start gently. or most people the trick is getting to full penetration over a period of several sessions. To begin, gently inserting a finger can help to get you used to the sensation of having something inside your anus. It’s important to stay with this until you feel sufficiently confident to try something a bit bigger. Many people use sex toys I highly recommend starting with a butt plug (We-Vibe Ditto), as well as fingers or tongues, to gently explore the anus before progressing to full penetration by your partner. Some couples simply stick to using sex toys also I highly recommend anal beads and find this just as pleasurable. Lots of kissing and caressing is likely to help too because it will help to ease any anxiety and boost arousal. If you haven’t tried anal sex before, it’s natural to be concerned about pain. Any painful sensation is usually a warning sign that something is wrong and isn’t working, but when done with care it is not as or difficult than other sexual practices. That’s why being really aroused before any penetration is attempted is so important, along with feeling confident that your partner will stop if you ask them to. This is because the anal canal is likely to clamp shut at the first sign of pain or anxiety. The anal entrance is very sensitive and so starting with gentle touch or stroking there and all over the buttocks can really help set the scene before attempting penetration. Once the penis is inside the anus, any thrusting should start only after the penis has ‘rested’ there for a while. This helps you get used to feeling ‘filled up’ and also allows for checking out with a partner when to start and stop moving. Getting into the right position can help too. Spooning or lying side by side can be helpful because it allows for continued stimulation of the clitoris, nipples or penis, which can enhance pleasure and help maintain arousal. The level of penetration isn’t as deep as with some other positions, so this may be a comforting thought if you are an anal novice. For some men, face to face entry where the penetrator has their partner’s legs raised over their shoulders can help with continued stimulation of the penis. Anal sex is safer and often more pleasurable and fun when you take care to follow some basic guidelines. The anus doesn’t lubricate in the same way as a vagina so using plenty of lube is a must. Spread it all over the penis around the anus and as far up inside as you can. This will make penetration and stimulation much easier, and also help to avoid any damage to the anus which can be prone to cuts and tears if a partner gets careless. A water based lubricant is best (Coconu Water based lube) because silicon based lubricants can cause latex condoms to break. I'd also always recommend using condoms (The Hex Condom from Lelo) one to protect against STIs and to help avoid getting harmful bacteria where it can cause damage. Hygiene is important when it comes to anal, so wash thoroughly before any activity and wash the sex toys afterwards too. Using latex gloves for penetration with fingers and dental damns for mouth to anus contact may not sound the sexiest thing in the world but they can certainly help to limit any potential health hazards. And if there are any existing anal problems, such as itching or soreness, piles or constipation, these must be dealt with before you give anal a try. Also, definitely see a doctor if there’s any bleeding or discharge from the anus after sex (or indeed at any other time). Don’t be disappointed if it takes a few attempts to get to a place where it feels like a natural addition to your sexual experience. Equally, if you do try anal and find it’s not for you then don’t worry - there are always plenty of other things to experiment with. Whatever happens, feeling safe and comfortable is likely to enhance the experience for both of you. A key part of that, as with all things sexual, is deciding together what’s on offer and how far you want to go.

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Sex Bucket List

Sex Bucket List Let us start with the obvious item should make your list of things to put on your sex bucket list that will enhance the intimacy with your partner. There is so many times missionary can be achieved before sex becomes a chore and an all-out bore that lacks fun, imagination and any ounce of energy. Want to have incredible sex and figure out what you and your partner like? Then trying a new position is definitely a must. You be able to find positions that allow for deeper penetration, long lasting sex, greater enjoyment, stronger intimacy, and many more things that will leave you wondering why you didn’t do this sooner. Try Some Role Play Does your partner like to watch a certain movie, TV show, or play a certain video game? Do they look turned on when they talk about it? Then you have more hints than you know in order to bring their fantasy to life in a very sexy way. If he likes stars wars, then it is time to dress up as princess Leia and have him be your Han Solo so that he can rescue you from the evil clutches of Jaba the Hut – you don’t even need to watch the entire stars wars saga to know this scene is huge turn on. Try Edging Together Edging is underrated, but it can lead to mind blowing sex and deeper appreciation for communication. When edging, all you have to do is stop having sex whenever you are about to climax, calm yourself down, and start having sex again. Then repeat the process; the longer you do this for, the better because when you finally climax, it will be the one of the most intense orgasms of your life. You will learn to communicate more with your partner, and have sex that lasts longer. The added benefit of edging is that it actually helps guys who have premature ejaculatory problems last longer in bed by giving them more sexual stamina, which can also lead to more pleasure for both of you. Threesome While three is a crowd – as the saying goes. Sometimes, the more people there are, the merrier. If your partner is open to it, then you have to make a threesome one of the things to put on your sex bucket to try at least once. You partner also has to be very comfortable with adding an extra person, because this will bring a lot of extra variables into the sex equation, and they need to be ready. The idea of seeing your partner with someone else can be scary and may arouse feelings of jealousy, so this has to be attempted when your relationship is secured enough and both of you know that this is just a fun little adventure. Get Kinky If you are more secure and mature in your relationship that being more open is not an issue, then why not add some kink into the mix and enjoy a little S&M (sadism and masochism). This is where you and your partner abuse each other – by whipping, for example – during sexual intercourse. You can throw in a little bondage and discipline in there to get the full experience of bondage discipline sadism and masochism (BDSM) – just don’t forget to use a safe word incase suffocation is involved. This can lead to all new levels sexual arousal and orgasms that can intensify the sexual experience. Sex with Other Couples You’ve probably gone on a few double dates with a couple that you and partner seem to like very much by now. It’s the third date, and things seem to be going very well. So it might be time to invite them over to take the friendship to the next level as couples. This is a more intimate version of a foursome and adds greater variety into the mix, such as a social dimension, quantity, curiosity and more, to give you a break from conventional sex. Whatever the reason, make sure to vet the couple you decide to have sex with very carefully, just to be on the safe side, otherwise have a blast getting to know your friends more intimately. Sex in Public This one should have been at the top of the list, but I thought it required a little build up because it can be quite a rush. The excitement of being caught and trying to get away with it makes the whole activity very hot and dangerous (which makes it hotter). To go at it with your partner in places that are forbidden and pose risk of arrest and/or public humiliation can breathe a whole new life into your sex life and bring whole lot energy and arousal. It is time to have sex on the beach (and I am not talking about the drink). If you are ever thinking of doing it in the park, then you should definitely make this one of the things to put on your sex bucket list.

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Sex In a Pool!

If you’ve ever dreamed about underwater sex… you’re not alone! Sex in a pool, hot tub, ocean, bathtub, river, lake… you name it, people have done it there! But what’s so intriguing about having sex in a pool? What are the risks involved in underwater sex? How should I go about underwater sex in a safe and pleasurable way? We can answer all your questions in this ultimate guide on “having sex in a pool”. If it’s on your bucket list to have sex in a pool, join the club. In the U.S. alone, 24,000 people search how to have sex in a pool each month! Hard to imagine there are that many clean pools out there left? There is some risk involved in it, and here is exactly what to do before, during, and after taking on this adventurous sexcapaid!   Having sex in a pool: 101             When summertime roles around, its hard not to imagine having adventurous sex in a pool. When it’s hot out, and everyone is already half naked, it makes sense people want to have sex in a nice cool and comfortable place like the pool. While pool sex is refreshing and fun, from a physical standpoint, it is not the safest way to get down. I really don’t mean to rain on your parade and ruin your plans of crazy pool sex this weekend, but you should be well aware of the risks before taking on any sexual endeavors. Here are some risks involved when having sex in a pool:   Sex in a pool can adjust your vagina pH balance: If you want a happy and healthy vagina, the pH balance is critical. In the same way specific acidic lubes can likely lead to infections, sex in a pool can throw off the balance in your vaginal pH. If you are prone to UTI, bacterial, or yeast infections you might want to stick to just foreplay in the pool and leave the actual sex in a pool out of it. The chlorinated water in pools can leave you venerable to these symptoms due to the pH imbalance. Sex in a pool can increase your chances of a STI: Yes, there are water-based lubricants that work great, but water by itself is not a lubricant. Water by itself can act as anti-lubricant and cause micro tears in the vaginal skin. This can lead to increase risk of STD. The water in a chlorinated pool is not the traditional environment that your vagina is used to. Which is why this is really not the safest manner for penetrative sex.   Sex in a pool does not mean you can’t get pregnant: For some odd reason, maybe due to the environment, a lot of people think you can not get pregnant if you have sex in a pool. While the pool does not increase your fertility, it does not decrease your likely hood of conception by any degree. You should still always use a condom for unwanted pregnancy. You should still pee after sex in a pool: A lot of women believe if you just had sex in a pool with chlorinated water, there is no reason to have to pee after. However, it is quite the opposite. If you just had sex in a pool it is more important to pee because your chances of UTI are increased by the water. So get yourself out of the pool and into the bathroom ASAP when done.    Tips for having sex in a pool:   Now that you know the risks involved with having sex in a pool, what are some tips for staying safer if I still want to give it a go? “Underwater sex can feel adventurous and a great way to mix things up.” In a lake or ocean, there is an element of risk in getting caught that can spice it up as well! Don’t have sex in a pool without Lube: As we stated earlier, water is not a lubricant. It can actually reduce your body’s natural lubrication and make sex less enjoyable. This is due to your body’s natural fluids being washed away. It would be best to use a silicone lube in water since it will not wash away as easily.             Sex in a pool will require some unique positions: In the water, the most basic sex positions like missionary position, cowgirl, doggy style…i.e. are not going to work. You will have to get a little creative at this point. The standing positions will have to due unless you pull out a big floatie. If only one individual is on the floatie you can always opt for oral sex too! Keep in mind the physical limitations while having sex in a pool: No matter how you stand to have sex in a pool there is always a “slip” factor. Not only can this totally kill the buzz it can cause injury. If you are very concerned with it, you can get a non-slip mat, otherwise just be aware of your footing and make sure you are near something you can catch yourself on if you slip. Save the rough and crazy sex for dry land, the water adds enough crazy factor as is. If you are in a hot tub, make sure your plenty hydrated and not overheating. You should only be in hot tubs 15-30 mins depending on the temperature. Having sex in public is illegal: I know, I know… total buzz kill again. I didn’t make the rules believe me! But be aware, if you’re not in the privacy of your own backyard, don’t forget that you could get in trouble for having sex in public. While the fear of getting caught might be half the fun, in most states, public sex is illegal. So, if you’re not willing to take the risk, the tub or shower is a great place to start your underwater sex adventure. Having foreplay in the pool: With all the criminal risk and physical risks involved sometimes it is best just to have foreplay in the pool. Heat things up with touching, kissing, and grabbing underwater then move to dry land to finish each other off. Don’t forget to bring a sex toy for extra foreplay in the pool. Again, probably want a private pool before whipping out a sex toy. Bring a sex toy to your underwater sex party: If you are really feeling adventurous you can always bring a sex toy in the water (if it’s a waterproof sex toy). The vibration underwater can really bring unique stimulation to the clitoris. This external stimulation will excite her along with not much risk of health concerns since it is not penetrative sex. A lot of sex toys can be conspicuous in size, shape, and color. This can make it easy to hide in your suit until your in the water or just carry it out into the water, most people will not know what it is, or think it’s a water toy of some sort. Whatever the case might be, just give yourself plenty of personal space before turning it on. You could even bring a cock ring in the water but use it as a vibrator on her since it is made for female external vibration anyway! Top sex toys for sex in a pool:   ORA 2 The ORA 2 by Lelo is an amazing sex toy for the pool. It is made for clitoral stimulation. Its waterproof and rechargeable with a charge that will last for hours. It was built for the sole purpose of simulating the use of a tongue just like oral sex. Plus it is small in size to allow for easy carry out to the ocean or lake in front of people. Mimi Soft The Mimi Soft is waterproof, rechargeable, and made from extremely soft and delicate silicone. It is still durable enough to hold up underwater and can bring great vibration for external genital stimulation. It will never be noticed as a sex toy by most since it is small and has an egg shape to it.   Yoni Egg  The Yoni Egg and most Ben-Wa-Balls would be great for the pool. It is tucked up inside of her so water will stay out of the vaginal cavity. Beyond that, ben-wa-balls are amazing in a rhythm rocking motion. The are designed for use in rocking chairs to slowly increase pleasure until orgasm. So imagine floating in the ocean on the rolling waves, totally relaxed, with just the rhythm and rock of the ocean. Talk about a unique and incredible sex experience!   Sex in a pool wrap up: Now that you know the risks involved of penetrative sex in a pool we have given you some unique alternatives to this. Such as sticking to foreplay in the pool, enjoying external stimulation with a sex toy, or using ben-wa-balls. If you still must engage in penetrative sex underwater, remember to use a silicone-based lube, pee once your done, and a condom is still necessary. So the next time things really start to heat up in the water, utilize these simple tips to keep things cool, refreshing, and of course pleasurable!

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Sex Positions 101

Sex Positions 101 This will become your ultimate guide to sex positions. It is not your typical 1000 different images of twisted figurines with wild names like “X marks the spot” or “The Mixed Lotus”. Majority of these animations are not even humanly possible unless your quadruple jointed in the knees; much less comfortable enough to enjoy the sex while partaking in the act. This sex position guide will be for beginners to advanced users, but be realistic in what positions work, provide pleasure, and are a great way to mix things up. The sex positions we will describe in detail are all “natural” movements for the body. The positions will be easy to transition into and provide the ultimate pleasure for both individuals. Nobody likes stopping the current sex position, then spending 5 minutes trying to get comfortable in a new crazy and exotic way. “Keep things simple and keep things pleasurable” is our motto at Diskret. So, lets start with some history on how these sex positions all came about! History of Sex Positions: The history of sex positions is a long one. Nobody is exactly sure of the origin of when people started using a large variety of positions during intercourse. But we know it was not anytime recent. A lot of pottery and books dating hundreds of years BC depicted images of individuals partaking in various sex positions. Perhaps the most famous book being the “Karmasutra” which was an ancient Indian Hindu text. Contrary to western popular perception the Karma Sutra in not an exclusive sex manual; but describes much more. It discusses the nature of love, family life, and other pleasure-oriented aspects of life. Less than a quarter of the book is actually dedicated to sex positions. The oldest exclusive sex position book was found more recently, in 1970’s a text was discovered from a 15-century book called “Speculum al Foderi” written in the Catalan language. This was the first known book describing only sex positions. It was written in Europe around the Medieval era.   Beginner Sex Positions: The term “beginner” is thrown around a lot for sex positions and I want to be clear on what this exactly means to Diskret. If it’s extremely pleasurable for you and your partner, what does it matter if it is labeled a beginner sex position or not? Let me answer that for you, it doesn’t! Labels can be very misleading in the world of sex positions, so listen closely. What I label as a “beginner” sex position hits the following list: Easy to transition into from missionary position. Does not require extreme flexibility. Does not require you to be superior in physical fitness. Easy to describe to your partner. Easy to show and guide your partner. I get that everyone wants to try the best sex position. Which I take as, the sex position that brings the most pleasure. However, there is a huge misconception that the more complex the sex position is, the more pleasure it will bring! This is not true, actually I’ve found it to be quite reverse of this conception. When it comes to sex positions, keeping things simple are usually the positions that bring the most pleasure. So, stop trying to learn a “Double Twisted Pretzel” and worry about understanding what sex positions actually bring you both pleasure, and are easy to manage. The below positions are for male and female vaginal penetration. I will touch on gay and lesbian versions later. However, never discount them for you and your partner no matter what your gender is. Females can always use a strap-on, and gay males can use most of the sex positions described for straight couples anyway. So please don’t get hung up on the images being a male and female. The first beginner sex position is a twist on your standard missionary. It is an easy transition from your basic sex positions, all you need is a pillow! All you need to do for this sex position is keep a pillow within arms reach when you start having sex, same as you would do with a sex toy! Then after you get a little tired of missionary, grab the pillow and have her lift her butt in the air by pushing off on her feet, and putting pressure on her upper back. Then slide the pillow under her hips. This sex position can create some mind-blowing results for women, it will help him pushed against her clitoris, but also penetrate deeper. If you try this sex position, and you both agree it works well, you could always invest in a Liberator. The Liberator gives support at the perfect angle, while offering endless possibilities when it comes to different sex positions. Its also the perfect gateway into more advanced sex toys! The second beginner sex position is not quite as easy to transition into as the first. It requires the  man to stand at the edge of the bed and the female to slide to the edge of the bed. The male can lean in off the front of his feet and get a ton of pressure and deep thrusts. He can also lean his arms on the bed to the side of the females shoulders for extra weight and pressure in the thrusting motion. Remember if leaning becomes tough on your arms or shoulders, simply stand upright like pictured. The standing individual is in complete control with this sex position. He can thrust as fast or slow as his heart desires! The third and final beginner sex position is changing it up with the female on top. This might  seem basic, but if you have not tried this yet, it can be a real eye opener. This beginner sex position puts the girl in complete control. The on one bottom can lay helpless or slight hip thrust to support her. Have him lie on his back while you slowly mount him with one leg on either side of his body. Take his shaft and slowly lower yourself down onto it. Remember lube is your friend with any beginner sex position but especially this one. She can then use a “bounce” effect using pressure on the knees, or a grinding effect by sliding back and forth on him vs up and down. Oral Sex Positions:          Got the beginner sex positions down and want to mix it up further? Not all sex positions have to be vaginal penetration by the male. A great way to enhance your sex life is with different oral sex positions. Of course, everyone knows the blowjob or 69 sex positions. But what else is there? What other oral sex positions can give pleasure to straight, gay, and lesbian couples? As stated before the pictures will be of male and female but can apply to all gender relationships, so please don’t get hung up on the image being a male & female it is only for demonstration purposes. The first oral sex position is slightly different than most think, it is  called North Face and it is with one individual sitting above the other’s face. The individual on top is facing away from the lower half of the other individual in this case the male on bottom, and female is pictured on top. So, what is so special about this oral sex position? In this case it allows the male to solely focus on the female. He is giving her his undivided attention and she does not have to worry about pleasing him, only enjoying the ride! She can move up down and around to help direct him to the “sweet spot” and put her hands against the wall or on the headboard for extra added support. The second oral sex position is a twist off of the 69 sex position. It is called “sideways 69” and in  this one the male and female are both on their sides facing opposite directions like you would in the original oral sex position. It allows a built-in headrest for both individuals and the motion of oral sex coming from a very different angle gives a totally unique feeling. No longer is the mouth on genitals from a straight on oral sex position but tilted to the side. This alone will give you a serious boost of pleasure. The angle will give you access to his and her whole crotch, allowing for either to get deeper on the shaft or deeper into the vagina. The third oral sex position is called “laying butler”.  This oral sex position is great for any gender mix and allows easy access to the anus, penis, or vaginal region with a great angle for the giver. The receiver simply enjoys and guides their partner with slight hip movements to the best spots. It is easy to transition into this oral sex position as well because the receiver normally being on their back just simply roles over. Just make sure the communication is their ahead of time, so your partner knows what’s going on, and what your looking to have done! Gay Sex Positions:        So guys, what are the best gay sex positions out there? When it comes to gay positions, it really is not narrowing down most sex positions beyond the obvious. Most male / female sex positions could work for male / male as well. But there are a few in particular that just give a better angle for men entering other men. The first gay sex position is called “Knee Up”. This one is for gay men who want to get real deep penetration. The receiver lays on his back and brings his knees towards his chest. The giver then enters him face to face like missionary style. This gay sex position is great for men who are flexible but want something slightly rougher. For a different angle on this one try tucking a pillow under his butt.   The second gay sex position is called “Cowboy” (I know the names are not very original, but I didn’t come up with them). Well you know how a girl can go on top, shown in the diagram above. Guys can actually do the same thing. Straddle the guy and ride him by “bouncing” up and down or grinding back and forth. This is one of the best gay sex positions for guys who are new to gay sex. The reason for this is the receiver has a lot of control and can adjust if starting to feel uncomfortable.   The third gay sex position is called “Doggy Style.” Most everyone knows what this is when it comes to male / female, but its actually the best gay sex position for deep anal penetration. The receiver lays on the bed leaning on hand and knees while the giver penetrates from behind. This is a good gay sex position for LGBTQ couples as well, that enjoy dominance and rougher sex in particular.   Lesbian Sex Positions:                    Don’t worry ladies, we didn’t forget about you! As stated in most cases here, lesbian sex positions could be used by all gender relationships. The lesbian sex positions here are strictly more favorable for females due to slight differences but that is all. So ladies, the first lesbian sex position is called “The Lap Dance”. A female will sit on a slightly reclined chair with one knee bent out. You can rest your foot on a chair or edge as well. Then have your partner straddle that raised leg and grind her clitoris against your thigh. This lesbian sex position can change if you own a strap on and have her slide down on top of that to put an aggressive twist on this!    The second lesbian sex position is called “Back it up”. It can work in one of two ways through manual stimulation or with a strap on. One female will get on all fours and throw her hands back, while her partner gets behind her doggy style. Remember you can grab hands for a more kinky sex position.   The last lesbian sex position is a bit wild so get ready for the ride of your life.  This sex position is called “Gravity”. Have your partner sit in a chair leaning forward. Then you need to put your feet up on the chair straddling her body and your hands on the floor. She now has all-access for an oral sex position as well! The Best Sex Position: So now the question becomes what is the best sex position of all? You are going to hate my answer… I know everyone is looking for the best sex position is “X” which I have named some great ones above, but no single sex position is the absolute best sex position. It completely depends on the couple, everyone is a different size, shape, and like different styles of oral and penetration. The best sex position is the one that feels the best for both of you! I know this doesn’t sound like rocket science, but you need to experiment with your partner, and experiment frequently! You won’t find your best sex position until you try a lot of them. Once you try a handful of different sex positions you will know just by looking at the pictures and descriptions if its something up your ally or not. If it seems interesting and you enjoy a similar sex position, then go for it! The worst that can happen is one of you say its uncomfortable and switch to something else. You never know until you try, and you will narrow them down until you find your best sex position possible! Don’t forget to mix sex toys into different sex positions! Some of the best sex positions to start are by you or your partner using a sex toy on each other. Not all sex positions consist of just body to body contact, throw some objects in to spice it up, this makes the number of sex positions out there endless! A single different sex position can change your entire sex life, so never stop searching for the best! Sex Positions Conclusion: So in conclusion, changing up your standard sex positions can be life altering to a relationship. Sex is important to any relationship and if it begins to fizzle out, its important to try new things. Search for your best sex position and when you think you found it, keep looking for something better. Unless both of you are completely satisfied, stick with it for awhile but then try a different sex position, you will develop your “go-to” positions over time. Above are some amazing sex positions for all couples. Remember to throw in other objects like a chair, couch, sex toy, or wedge to really put a twist on your sex positions. Who knows, you may end up inventing your own sex position! No matter what you are looking for, anal, oral, deep penetration…. The list goes on. There is a sex position out there for you. So start exploring and having fun with it. The sex positions are endless and so is the pleasure!

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What the KINK!

BDSM first gained mainstream momentum in the 1940s and with the current cultural rise of movies, music videos, books and latex and leather as staple stamps as fashion phenomenon lets explore BDSM. As an acronym that stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism, here are its most common myths, debunked.  1) It's a rare phenomenon A recent study recently found that 57% of people have engaged in some form of bondage or blindfolding. 2) And a new fad BDSM first gained mainstream momentum in the 1940s, with the popularization of pin-up girls and fetish magazines, as well as the birth of the leather subculture in the gay community after World War Two. 3) It is defined by sadistic and masochistic acts There is a distinction between BDSM and sexual sadism and masochism, which involve actual physical or psychological suffering to one’s partner or oneself, respectively. BDSM, on the other hand, involves only the role-playing of such acts, with a heavy concern for safety and the prevention of harm. 4) The dominant partner is the one in control BDSM usually consists of a Dominant (“Dom” or “top”) partner and a submissive (“sub” or “bottom”) one. Although the Dominant would appear to be the one running the show, it is actually Doms that perform to please their subs. Hence, subs are often nicknamed “bossy bottoms”. 5) Partners are either dominant or submissive Many in the community identify as being a “switch,” which means they are open to taking on either the dominant or submissive role, depending on their mood or their partner’s preference. 6) A person who is dominant or submissive in real life will prefer a similar role in BDSM If you are naturally a leader, you might take the role of the Dominate in the relationship however this is not necessarily true to core. People who are dominant in real life will take on a submissive role in the bedroom, and vice versa. 7) BDSM is about whips and chains Like vanilla—or non-kinky—sex, individual preferences vary, from the somewhat tame use of silk  scarves and blindfolds, to more extreme pursuits, such as needle play (which involves piercing the body with hypodermic needles), erotic electro-stimulation (which is exactly what it sounds like), and sounding (inserting objects vertically into the male urethra). 8) BDSM is spontaneous and violent Mutual consent, trust, and negotiation are hallmarks of the BDSM lifestyle. Most will meet potential partners before “playing together” to discuss personal boundaries, any health conditions they might have, and safe words, to ensure that a “scene” (or sexual encounter) will be both sexually fulfilling and safe. Any use of control or infliction of pain is within the context of fantasy, including the role-playing of nonconsensual sex. 9) It always involves some form of sexual contact Orgasm during a scene is not always necessary for sexual gratification. For example, one man I spoke with enjoyed being humiliated by being whipped by his partner and told repeatedly that he had a small penis. “Sex” for him did not involve any physical contact with her. Gratification would arrive in the form of going home after the scene ended to masturbate while replaying these events in his mind. 10) The BDSM community revolves only around sex Like any community, those practicing BDSM also enjoy embarking on non-sexual activities. “Munches” are informal events, usually held in restaurants, for the purposes of socializing. Some will also hold information workshops (such as, “Rope Tying for Beginners”) to help educate others in the community. 11) BDSM involves the use of fancy tools and expensive equipment The impressive set-ups seen in professional BDSM porn is not representative of what most BDSM practitioners have in their collection at home. In fact, many acquire their essential items at hardware and kitchen supply stores. In addition to finding ropes and chains, one can use plastic curtain rods for caning, wooden cooking utensils as paddles for spanking, and clothespins as makeshift nipple clamps. 12) People who take part in BDSM are psychologically maladjusted In fact, they have been shown to score higher than vanilla folk on several positive psychological characteristics, including subjective well-being. 13) You can tell if someone is part of the lifestyle based on what they look like Contrary to what you might expect, those who partake in BDSM are usually successful professionals  who are educated, work full-time jobs, and have families. Some will wear jewelry emblematic of locks, keys, and dog collars to show that they identify with the community; most others look like the average person you’d see on the street. So there you have it, your first real introduction to the ever so delicious and misunderstood world of KINK from a true BDSM lifestyle Goddess. Fetishism gets a bad rep, but any consenting sexual behavior is a perfectly healthy and beautiful aspect of sexuality. In fact, it's more common than you'd expect! One study of 367 males reported 35.7% engaged in fetishistic fantasy or behavior; further, not one of these participants reported associated distress. Since distress is the key component to clinical pathology, it's apparent that consensual fetishism is part of the spectrum of sexual behaviors and fantasies in healthy, normal individuals.

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When life is too busy, make the time to Spice up your Sex Life.

It is no secret that adult lives are busy, so busy that sometimes we barely have time to eat right, sleep enough, and of course have a decent sex life. Even when we have good intentions to make tonight the night, unexpected things seem to always happen. And sometimes, just sometimes, the plan for you and your lover to get naked and frisky is replaced by two sleeping adults snoring instead having incredible sex. Whether it is due to work, families or something else, we all face similar sex-obstacles and it is up to us to make the effort and the time. Only you can find ways to incorporate sex into your daily routine. Relationships can only go so long without intimacy. Adding some intimacy tips onto your daily routine could help improve and maintain a relationship. Humans are sexual creatures by nature and even the greatest loves can't withstand a life without sexual pleasure. Don't make one of the most common relationship mistakes and take your partner for granted.  Here are eight ways to incorporate sex into your daily routine. Take what you can get and give what you can It's not all about actual sex, pleasing your lover can be just as satisfying and in many cases an easier (quicker) way to incorporate sex into your daily life. Fooling around is hot and brings back memories of the good old days where you couldn't keep your hands off of each other. So if you have some time to spare don't assume it must be spent missionary, instead try touching, kissing, and giving pleasure in other ways. Morning quickies Set your alarm clocks a tad earlier so you can both wake up to enjoy each others bodies. The benefits of morning sex Mood Booster: we experience a release of oxytocin a loving bonding chemical that lifts our moods. Feel & Look Younger: With the release of endorphins sex causes the release of hormones, which can give the skin look younger and lush. Burn Calories: Yes, right before getting out of the bed burn those calories with some sexercise. It may seem crazy to imagine fitting that into your routine at first, but give it a try. I don’t know about you but I would love to start my day off with an orgasm. Just sayin'. Plan sex dates I know this may seem like the most unromantic thing, but for your busy calendar oriented people, scheduling sex sessions may be just what the doctor ordered. It can also allow you to incorporate sex into your daily routine. Between work, cooking, cleaning, yoga, and everything else in between there are some days I don’t get a moments rest. On those days, the last thing I am feeling is super excited to get naked and roll around. So if I am facing a week where spontaneous sex is just not in the cards I will plan a sex date to keep my lover satisfied and feeling important, because they are important and so is sex. It doesn't have to be boring either like, "OK hunny, next Wednesday at 8:45 pm I have an opening for some intercourse," talk about kill my libido, Please don't ever say that!  However, when I shoot a text that reads more like, "I know we've been busy but I can't wait to have you all to myself on Thursday" can be very hot.  Think of it like organized sexting meets virtual teasing. Be spontaneous Just like scheduled sex can be beneficial to our busy lives so can spontaneous sex. Knowing when to have sex and what works best for your relationship is a great way to incorporate sex into your daily routine. Honestly, you can't live your whole life by the books, even if those books occasionally have a blow job penciled in. Sometimes in life, we need to go with our feelings, with the day, with the wants of our partners. Some days we need to hit snooze on the alarm clock stay up an hour later, and remember how good it feels to be with our partner. Start foreplay with sexting Men love naked pictures of women so when they get a nudie of the woman they actually get to be with, its like Christmas morning in their pants. It is a wonderful way to incorporate sex into your daily routine. Even if you can't get up the nerve to do a sexy selfie, why not send some descriptive erotic texts telling him just how much you want him. It doesn't have to be filthy but use the advantage of not being face to face to open up more than you would in person. Same goes for you men guess what women LOVE to be adored, wanted, and appreciated, so take a few minutes out of your day to tell her just how much you do. Pick your favorite thing about her body and text her how much you love it. You may not always have time to fit sex into your daily life but that doesn't mean you can't fit some verbal loving in there. All this written desire can only lead to more possibilities in the bedroom. Think outside the home Sex doesn't only have to be in the bedroom, under the covers, with the room dimly lit. In fact, there are many other places to have sex outside the bedroom. Shower sex appeals to you morning love makers and don't underestimate the perfect height of the sink counter. Date nights that end in a hotel are guaranteed to get you both some action. Now, I don't want to advise you to go humping in the airplane bathroom or the back of your car, but if the moment strikes and the coast is REALLY clear, then why not give public sex try? It is an exciting way to incorporate sex into your daily routine. Adrenaline can be one hell of an aphrodisiac. Who needs a partner? The best way to get your sexual desires back and percolating is to give yourself some attention and remind yourself how good it feels. It doesn't have to be this big production but when you have some spare time, take out your BOB (battery operated boyfriend) and see where things go. Many times people, women more than men, lose interest in the action rather than the outcome, because let's be honest you can't get sick of orgasms, but if you can remind yourself of the joy and relief that comes with the Big O, you'd be surprised how much more you may crave it. Have some unwind time So many of us never have the time to wind down. We go go go all day long and then are expected to jump into bed and become a vixen in between the sheets. Yeah, right! At the end of the day, in order to incorporate sex into your daily routine, you have to be willing to try other things as well. Things that can only help as a couple. Scheduling time to have sex is great, but if you can also set aside a little extra for a glass of wine and erotic massage then even better.  Personally, I can't tell you how many times I have said, "I'm tired" or "I'm not in the mood," only to then get a 10-minute foot or back massage and be complete putty in my lover’s hands. All you need are those few minutes of clearing your head and a good ol' muscle rubdown to change your stubborn ways and incorporate sex into your daily routine.

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Your Ultimate Guide To Literotica!

This is going to become your ultimate guide to literotica! If you are not sure what literotica is don’t worry, you’re not alone. Literotica and writing erotic stories have been around a long time but have really went main stream in the past few years especially with the explosion of “Fifty Shades” novels and movie series. What Is Literotica: Literotica refers to creatively written erotica novels, stories, and poems. It was derived from literature and erotica, meaning the writing of erotic situations. The term originated from Literotica.com, which was a unique site that took user-submitted erotic stories and posted it for everyone to read. The websites name caught on and become synonymous for modern erotica novels and stories. Literotica in a sense is like watching soft porn, of course you have the extreme adult stories as well. You can read anything from people making out, all the way to extreme bondage and BDSM scenarios. All true literotica should have a goal in telling a story and explaining the background more than focusing only on the sexual content. The key is building the background before explaining the hot sex scenes in excruciating details. The important thing is finding a balance of what you’re most interested in, and what excites you the most. You can find literotica short stories, one-off stories, chain-stories written with other authors, and entire adult novels submitted in chapters. All literotica is usually a largely image-free environment. If your looking to watch porn, go watch porn. If you’re looking to stare at images of naked men or women, go buy a playboy. That is not what you will find in literotica, nor is the purpose of these stories. These adult stories are meant to drive your imagination into places it has never been. Imagine a hot steamy sex dream while you’re awake! Literotica is categorized into many different themes, some involving minimal pictures, and others strictly audio. While men strongly prefer to watch porn, many women find this to overwhelming. Most porn is geared towards men and does not build any anticipation but more so goes straight into the sex scene. Literotica liberates a lot of women from porn that might be to extreme or vulgar for them to truly enjoy. The term “porn for women” is searched a quart-million times a month for a reason. Women want something more specific to them. While it might take longer than a 5min video clip, picking up a literotica novel can bring you continued pleasure through your own imagination, for hours on end! A psychologist opinion on the matter: While men, unlike women, physical excitement and psychology are blended; if there is an erection, the male is excited. The women’s brain is designed to be more cautious, that’s why they choose partners with care and gathering a lot of information. Which is why women read more literotica compared to watching porn. This of course is not scientifically proven; however the numbers don’t lie. Women search literotica just under 2M times a month and they are not only reading it but getting serious pleasure out of writing it as well. Besides, what’s better than putting your deepest darkest desires on paper anonymously for everyone else to fantasies about? Keep in mind Literotica does not have to be a 300 page novel. The adult short stories are becoming more and more popular. Imagine reading a blog, or article from the newspaper. It might only take you 5 mins, but in that span of time it can get your mind and body worked up into quite a degree of pleasure. No need to think dirty, literotica explains that dirty image very vividly! History Of Literotica:      Erotic writing: Erotic writing has been around since ancient Greece and Roman times. In ancient Sumer, a whole cycle of poems revolved around the erotic lovemaking between multiple goddesses. Erotic fiction: Erotic fiction has been around since ancient and medieval times as well. Erotic fiction is a twist on literotica where it deals with sexual themes, generally in a more literary or serious way than the fiction seen in your Dads porno mags. These works are frequently banned by the government and religious societies. “The writing of prostitution”: The writing of prostitution was the earliest focus of literotica. The term “pornography” which is derived from the Greek word pornographos meaning “the writing of prostitution”. The original writings were denoting descriptions of the lives of prostitutes and their customers in Ancient Greece. But that’s enough of a history lesson. What exactly is literotica, what should I read it, how should I read it, and what are the benefits? Let me put it this way, literotica is the ultimate build up and anticipation for pleasure. Read further as I explain how reading a book translates to the most pleasurable experiences you will ever have! How To Enjoy Literotica: Literotica can be enjoyed many ways, however we will go into detail on what we think is the best way. The most important thing to remember is you need to focus on the adult story and forget everything else. Similar to masturbation, the state of mind going into it is everything. Literotica is an escape from reality, an escape from your daily lives. So just as you would prepare for a solo masturbation session or sex with a lover, make sure you have these covered: Time to give undivided attention. Relaxed state of mind. If your masturbating during or after, your favorite sex toy readily available. If your listening with a partner, and you plan to have sex during or right after, be in a private place. You don’t want to have to worry about others intruding! If your listening to an audio version, make sure your background noise is minimal, and you have plenty of battery power to make it through the adult story. It is not uncommon for women to have a sex toy at their side while reading literotica. You will get quite worked up, believe me! This is the perfect segue into masturbating. If you plan on masturbating during the literotica story, we suggest using the audio version of the story. It’s more difficult to  read while focusing on touching yourself, than it is to lay back and listen while using your sex toy. So what type of adult product should I use while listening to the story? Your imagination is the limit! Use a vibrator or dildo to start but mix it up with anal beads or butt plugs at your leisure. Remember if the story goes into anal play, you may want an anal toy next to you, this way you can role play and follow along. Its not uncommon for couples to listen to the literotica together! I know we have preached about women enjoying literotica, but men enjoy it too! Try getting your significant other to listen to a story you really enjoy, it may lead into the role playing of a lifetime! This is a perfect way to reignite any relationship. Even if you just send them the file and have them listen to it on their own; if they are not comfortable doing it with you to start. This will spark their imagination and they can envision performing the acts from the literotica with you! The key is to get a release and break from the “real world”. Even if its only for 5-10mins it is healthy to step back and enjoy some mental relaxation from time to time. By reading a few pages you can forget about daily tasks, work problems, family responsibilities, and leave for a small moment of pleasure. Women’s favorite genre is romantic tales, a longer literotica story, sometimes even a few hundred pages, where the thrilling scenes are spread throughout. But you really need to read a few stories in each genre to get a taste of what turns you on the most. Just by the category names you should have an idea if you want to start there or maybe work your way into it. Benefits Of Literotica Reading literotica fantasies causes the mind to run wild, causes chills up your spine, and triggers unimaginable pleasurable feelings. Although not all adult stories are pleasure driven, some adult stories have twists of humor, sadness, and action throughout. These adult stories give a full mix of all emotions while reading. A lot of women for fear of being considered scandalous and perverse, prefer to get lost in the pages of a hidden desire, rather than actually transform their desires into reality. Some of you may find this to be silly, but it’s a benefit to read literotica if you’re not as outgoing, it may help you begin to openly express yourself more sexually. Here at Diskret we believe you should always openly express your sexual desires with your significant other. Especially explore your desires amongst your own body, with masturbation, lietrotica, and porn if you so choose. Remember using a sex toy to masturbate is not a scandalous taboo act. Actually, it’s quite the opposite! It is rare nowadays to find a woman who doesn’t enjoy a good literotica story while using a vibrator. However, if you’re not on this level yet, literotica can help open your mind to exploring these fantasies. Types Of Literotica The rule here is; if you have imagined it, chances are someone has written on it. The list of genres for literotica is extensive. Everything from anal play, BDSM, erotic couples, fetish, first time, gay male, and humor. The list is a mile long and each genre has thousands of adult stories in them. Below is a basic description for some of the more popular literotica genres: Illustrated - Erotica with accompanying original visual artwork. Celebrities and Fan Fiction – Adult stories and erotic fan fiction about famous people. Mature - Lust and love affairs. Chain Stories - Collaborations between literotica authors. Erotic Horror - Bizarre, shocking, scary, these can also be sexy. Letters and Transcripts - Fictional literotica correspondence. First Time – These are usually less fictional and are of memories & stories of people's first times. How To - Advice and suggestions from our readers and literotica authors. Humor and Satire – Literotica stories with a little sense of humor. Non-English - Erotic stories in all languages. Non-Human - Aliens, ghosts, androids, and more. Novels and Novellas - Erotic fiction with a broader scope. Usually longer literotica stories. Mind Control - Erotic-hypnosis and mind control. Reviews and Essays - Your take on art, films, and all things sexual. Romance - Drama, love, risk, and happily-ever-after. Sci-Fi and Fantasy - Literotica tales set in futuristic or fantastic worlds. Text with Audio - Literotica with oral accompaniment. Is There Risk in Reading Literotica Reading literotica and adult stories is not harmful to you. Keep in mind like anything sexual related, it needs to be done in a mature demeanor. Once you finish an adult story and have your dose away from reality, the story is exactly that… an escape from reality. These adult stories are fiction. Actually, most of the stories are ten-twenty times more unrealistic than what happens in real life. So, don’t read literotica and think your sex life is “boring” because you don’t have experiences like the story. As long as you are not comparing yourself to the literotica, reading it is not harmful by any means. The Best Literotica I know what you’re thinking, so what is the best literotica on the market? It really does depend on what you’re interested in. I would suggest a popular novel from New York Times bestselling author Sylvia Day. She has written a five-book series that puts the “50 shades” series to shame in my opinion. You can find these books for less at Diskret. Diskret also offers a lot of “how-to” books, and sexual informational guide books. If you are looking for a massive library of online stories, a no brainer would be to check out literotica.com. If you are looking for something more specific, and you like your fantasies rough, check out BDSM Café. This site has an extensive archive of erotic stories, novels, and pomes all focused on the bondage, discipline, and masochism lifestyle. It’s a one-stop shop for anyone looking to add some kink into their lifestyle. Polyamory is treading everywhere nowadays and Sex, Love, and Everything will help you understand why. This is a married couple blog about their unique experiences after willingly opening their marriage to others. It’s a great place to live vicariously through a sexually adventurous couple, while also very informal about kinky related topics. At last, if you are looking for 40,000+ stories on masturbation theme, check out Solo Touch. This site is dedicated specifically to masturbation. Members have access to live chat rooms, forums, and web cams. But the reading is exquisite, exciting, and tantalizing. Remember to have that sex toy in hand when reading these! Literotica Conclusion          In conclusion, literotica is a website based on erotica novels, short stories, and poems. The websites name has grown to become synonymous for modern erotica novels and adult stories. These stories have helped many women step outside their daily lives into the amazing world of fulfilling their deepest sensual desires. Try listening to some audio versions while masturbating for a unique solo experience. Or share the experience with your partner, for a new twist on sex. These stories will have both of your minds running wild! Hand that sex toy over to your partner while enjoying a good erotic novel for the ultimate experience in pleasure. However, you enjoy literotica is up to you, but just remember its there for your imagination. Let lose, open your mind for some new experiences, and enjoy reading something that isn’t work or school related for once. Remember to take your pleasure seriously, and if you have any other questions about literotica please ask us at Diskret. We are always here to help, if you want our personal recommendations, check them out here.

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Your Ultimate Guide to Anal Beads

When you first started masturbating it was intuitive to start with your genitals. Most of us heard this is how you masturbate, hand and genitals, maybe some lube if you are really feeling wild. Well times have changed my friend! People are really becoming more open with their sexuality and not holding back when it comes to exploring more ways to find pleasure. Of course, people have explored anal play and anal beads in the past, but it was not as socially acceptable or popular as it is  today. What are anal beads?          Anal beads are a sex toy that consist of round spheres attached to each other by a form of a string. As you insert these and remove these from the anus they provide the user pleasure. Lots, and lots of pleasure to be more specific. If you have participated in anal sex, or perhaps a butt plug before, you are no stranger to the pleasure it can provide if done correctly. There is no gender specific anal bead.  Anal beads can be used by males or females and perhaps the only thing that would make one geared more for females vs males would be the colors involved. Both males and females have the same biology when it comes to the anus. History of Anal Beads: Anal sex has been around since the Ancient Greeks. We know this because they were obsessed with depicting it on all their clay pottery. But they weren’t the only ones participating in anal sex, between 100AD and 800AD in Northern Peru, the Moche culture production of pottery exploded. With that archaeologists have unearthed 10,000 pots all showing individuals participating in anal sex! So, when did anal beads come into play? Nobody is exactly sure, but if they already had ben Wa balls and dildos, and were obsessed with anal sex, they most likely had some form of anal beads then as well. But either way, its not like anal beads are some 21st century invention is the point. Types: There are hundreds of different types of anal beads on the market. However, they all use the same general concept of a shaped bead, on a string like material. Some use round spheres, while others use ellipse shaped beads. They use a string to connect them or a single molded flexible unit. They will all have a ring or “stopper at the end to prevent the anal beads from going in to far. Most all have a gradual increase in size from smallest to largest, with the largest being the last to enter the anus. The stopper will be used to pull the anal beads back out during use. Some of the types of materials that make up anal beads are: Silicone: Silicone anal beads are the usually the most economic friendly however are usually lower quality. Some tend to break down over time and are slightly more difficult to clean due to the pours naturally found in silicone. Also, they may not be used with specific oil-based lube as this can break down the silicone. Make sure to read the material composition of the anal bead and if it is safe with all lubes or use a trusted manufacturer/retailer like Diskret. Glass: Glass anal beads are slightly higher quality than silicone, but keep in mind you sacrifice the flexibility that silicone provides. For beginners I suggest getting glass or steel anal beads for the fact it doesn’t require as much dexterity or control to use. Once you gain more experience with the stiffer anal bead, you can move to a flimsy silicone if you wish. Steel: Steel anal beads are the highest quality material. They are the safest from a hygiene perspective and easy to control for beginners. Check out the Njoy Fun Wand which consist of a steel dildo and anal beads on the opposite end! Just keep in mind to minimize risk when purchasing anal beads. Stay away from anal beads that use nylon string. These are usually low quality and uncomfortable when being used. Remember to start small and work your way into the larger sizes if you are new to anal beads and anal toys. As you become more experienced you may not want the very small beads at the end and wish to have something small and stockier. This way you can experience the larger beads without requiring to 5-8 small beads first. Check out the anal beads by Diskret for this look and feel. What Do They Feel Like? Anal beads are a unique sex toy, much different from your vibrators and dildos. But in my mind closer to ben wa balls . This is because they do not bring a constant surge of pleasure. Majority of the pleasure comes from being inserted and removed across two ringed sphincter muscles in your anus. This brings a serious amount of pleasure as each anal bead passes through this muscle. Work these into your daily sex life to increase pleasure for both him and her! Remember never to use the same anal beads on each other without cleaning in between. You do not want to transfer bacteria that is specific to your body into your partners. How To Use Anal Beads Overview:               There are a few ways to use anal beads for the maximum amount of pleasure. Remember you can use these during solo play, hand them over to your partner, or use them on your partner. The possibilities are endless when you start throwing different sex positions in there. Use the anal beads for a warm-up that leads into a more intense sex session for you and your partner. Use the anal beads at the start of your masturbation session, that can lead into a longer lasting orgasm. Talk to your partner about using them on him or her. Make sure they understand what they are, and how they work. Then remember to start slow and use lots of lube. If any discomfort happens make sure they tell you. Those are the main overviews on how to use anal beads. But what is the detailed process on using them?        Know Your Body:          Know your body and start small. If you are new to anal anything, make sure you are fully relaxed and purchase anal beads that are on a smaller scale. Make sure you are fully lubed, because the anus is fragile and can tear without lube. Insert the beads one by one until you are at your comfort limit for size, then slowly remove them to stimulate the anus. Just inserting the anal beads slowly with become pleasurable. Continue to do this until you are highly stimulated and turned on. Then you want to leave the anal beads in while you continue your masturbation or sex session. Remember, you will feel these throughout your sexual activities but they will be far from your main focus. Your focus will be on your partner and your genitals. Orgasmic!:               Once you have built stimulation with your masturbation or sex session until the point of orgasm. Remember you have the anal beads in to support your climax! So just before you orgasm slowly pull the anal beads out to set you over the edge! Or as soon as you orgasm slowly pull the anal beads out to make your orgasm extremely intense and last longer. This will stimulate both your (vagina / penis) and the anus all at the same time! Creating an extremely unique orgasm like you’ve never felt before. Don’t forget the vibrating anal beads for extra stimulation throughout. If you love anal stimulation,  you may want anal beads to be more of a focus than just warming up with them or leaving them in throughout the sexual session. In that case, play with them throughout the sex session whenever you need additional anal stimulation. Remember to use communication with your partner and have them pull/insert whenever you require this anal stimulation. You can also have them surprise you with stimulating them at there discretion which is always fun and kinky! Just a bead or two every 5 mins can increase pleasure drastically! Safety:           Remember to care for your adult products as you do your own body. These anal beads will be in your body and possibly your partners, so take care of them! Make sure to wash them fully after each use, some are dishwasher safe and others just clean with hot water and mild soap. If you are going to be using them with your partner, and your partner enjoys anal stimulation as well, have two sets of anal beads. One for you, and one for your partner. DO NOT MIX AND MATCH in the same sex session. Your anal bacteria are unique to your body and should not be transferred to another anus. For a safe bet, if your anal beads are made of the correct material you can boil them in water as well. Just remember to let them fully cool before use. As mentioned before, avoid all anal beads made from porous materials, because it doesn’t matter how much you try to clean them they won’t be 100% clean. Conclusion:  In conclusion, like most adult products if used in the correct manor and in safe conditions anal beads can be extremely pleasurable. A lot of individuals and couples are starting to explore anal play again. For the past couple hundred years it was looked at as “taboo” but those days are behind us and the 21st century is diving head first into the adult products world! Anal play has been around since the ancient Greeks for a reason, its insanely pleasurable! Give anal beads a try, even if you have not experimented with anal play before. It’s best practice to start small and work your way up with plenty of lube and in a completely relaxed state. The pleasure is induced through inserting and removing the anal beads slowly. You can insert the beads and leave them in throughout your sexual experience for an extra boost in pleasure. Remove them just before, or right after you orgasm for a prolonged intense orgasmic sensation! Do not be shy when talking to your partner about adult products or feel ashamed. Almost 80% of all women have tried some form of adult product and most men want to but might be too shy to bring it up to their partner. So don’t hold back, anal beads are just another tool in your sex box to stimulate your senses in another manor. Love your body, love your pleasure, and love your sex toys. Please feel free to contact Diskret if you have any questions on anal beads at info@diskretadultlife Also, make sure to check out all of Diskret’s top sex toys here!

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Your Ultimate Guide to Ben Wa Balls!

The History of Ben Wa Balls America became familiar with Ben Wa balls after the famous “Fifty Shades of Grey” movie when Christian shows Anastasia a set of Ben Wa balls and proceeds to insert them into her vagina. Anastasia then wears them all night long to an upscale party as a secret sex toy accessory. After the party, Christain removes the Ben Wa balls and they proceed to have their infamously hot sex scene. But what the heck are they, how does one use them, and where did they originate? The true origin of Ben Wa balls gets slightly blurred but they were first noted in Japan in 500A.D. No, that is not a “typo” 500 A.D.! These are not something a Hollywood director decided to throw in his sex related movie to spice it up. These have been around forever! A Japanese man created tiny, weighted balls that were inserted into the female vagina for extra male pleasure during intercourse. These original Japanese balls were metal and had mercury inside them. The movement of the dense mercury caused tiny sensations which led to orgasms for the females as well. So they started wearing them; free floating inside the vagina and as the slight movements massaged the vaginal wall, they became sexually aroused. After originating in Japan, they spread to China, India, Vietnam, and then into Europe before becoming known worldwide. They are also called by a variety of names such as benoit balls, dutone, love balls, pleasure balls, kegel balls, and jingle balls. How To Use Ben Wa balls So now that you know the history of the Ben Wa balls, how the heck do we use them? Traditionally, they were made of two hollow brass balls, which one was empty and the other contained a heavy metal ball inside or mercury. However, since then, technology has kicked in and you can now find a wide verity of Ben Wa balls. Once inserted a common action would be gently rocking in a rocking chair or swing to produce a constant rhythmic vibration that can bring some experienced women to orgasm. You can also perform a muscle building action called kegels to help hold them in and to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. These will help keep your vaginal area “tight” and create better sensation for a male partner along with yourself during intercourse! Some Ben Wa balls are even weighted to require the user to squeeze harder to hold them in, creating a more difficult workout, for more advanced Ben Wa users. How to Insert Ben Wa Balls The first thing you should do is turn yourself on or lube the vaginal area and Ben Wa balls. Then slowly glide the hollow ball in first, followed by the “loaded ball”. When placed in the correct location, slight movements of the hips and thighs will cause the loaded ball to float around thus causing small pleasant vibrations. Keep in mind the easier you can slide them in, the easier they will slide out, so a balance with practice and movements will be required to fully understand the size and lubrication you should stick to. We suggest laying down especially if you haven’t done this before. Don’t forget to relax, then insert the balls into the vagina when your mind is calm. Make sure you feel there is enough lubrication. You can always start with one ball if you are nervous to try both the first time. Once the Ben Wa balls are fully inserted, hold them inside the vagina by tensing your leg muscles together and doing kegel exercises. Try getting up and moving around, if it falls out, don’t worry! Make sure it is clean and give it another try. Remember the smaller and heavier they are, the more difficult it will be to hold them in. But advanced women can put them in and go about daily tasks around the house without them falling. Make sure you feel comfortable wearing the Ben Wa balls around the house before going in public with them, or you might be making an emergency pit stop to drop them! Keep in mind that glass and metal Ben Wa’s are on the more advanced side. These require more squeeze from the users to hold them in. If you are a beginner, you may want to start out with a silicone Ben Wa ball(s). Safety is very important. Make sure you wash the Ben Wa balls fully after every single use. They make sprays to clean adult products or warm water and antibacterial soap will do the trick. If they disassemble in anyway, such as a string or screw apart, make sure to take it apart and clean all the small crease as these can hold bacteria. If you do not clean them, you will be more susceptible to yeast infection. Is There A Medical Need To Use Ben Wa Balls? Ben Wa Balls are by no mean a requirement for women. They are made to be pleasurable, fun, and healthy! These are not required to make a male partner happy and satisfied in bed. Some women may like the fullness that the Ben Wa balls provide or if they have recently given birth it can help them get back to the natural tightness that they were at before. Like any adult product or sexual activity they can also help reduce stress in your life which has a world of health benefits as well. How To Use Ben Wa Balls Once you have inserted the Ben Wa balls you should put them in so the lower end of the ball is just inside you. Remember, if you have sex with them in, they will work their way all the way back. Yes, you can have sex with them in, that is how they were first designed to use in ancient Japan remember? Just don’t try this until you are fully comfortable with them during solo play . Remember like anything else with adult products, if they ever start to feel uncomfortable just take them out. They are meant to bring pleasure so if something doesn’t fell good why even use them? If you are looking to strengthen your PC muscles by doing kegel exercises here are a few simple steps to start with: Apply a water-based lube to the Ben Wa balls. Slide the Ben Wa balls in until they are just inserted and covered. You should be able to feel the end of them with your finger tips. When you contract while feeling the end of the Ben Wa ball (think of trying to gently cut off a pee mid-stream) if the ball goes further inside you, you’re using the correct technique! If the Ben Wa starts to move back towards your fingers (out of your vagina) you are using the wrong muscles. You should feel as though you are holding them up not pushing them out. Do not squeeze your abs or butt during the process. Now squeeze and hold then relax for 10 seconds. Repeat this and remember if your sore the next day, like working out or exercising your muscles are getting stronger and this is all part of the process. Remember It can take 2-3 weeks before you start to feel results of strengthened PC muscles. So don’t get discouraged after a few tries. Keep at it to feel the best results! How long should you keep Ben Wa balls in for? This really depends on the person, but beginners should keep it between 5-10 mins to start. If you are more experienced, you can keep them in for hours. Why am I not having an orgasm with the Ben Wa balls?! Remember these are thought more of a product to tease and “warm you up” than to have an orgasm. Most women do not orgasm from them unless they are more experienced and use techniques like the rocking chair motions. A lot of retailers and manufactures of Ben Wa balls do not want you to know this! We at Diskret believe in being upfront and telling the users exactly what to expect and how to use the products to bring the safest and most pleasurable experience. Remember if you make your PC muscles stronger using the kegel exercises above you will have more frequent orgasms and more powerful orgasms during sex and masturbation. Ben Wa balls can give a long constant slow pleasure to your daily activities, but you will most likely not be experiencing a full body, mind blowing orgasm. If you know this going in, they do not disappoint! What happens if Ben Wa balls get lost up there?! Don’t worry, they will not get lost in your vagina. The Ben Wa balls can not make it past your cervix, it is a barrier inside you. The phrase came about from anal sex toy play (Ben Wa balls are not for anal play). The anus does not have a barrier like the cervix and if the sex toy handle is smaller or same size  as the end used for pleasure it can “get lost” inside or require effort to get it out. Trusted sex toy manufacturing companies all know this, and you should not come across this from high quality brands and products. What if the Ben Wa balls don’t come out?! DO NOT FREAK OUT. I know this is your initial reaction, but it will only make it more difficult to get the Ben Wa balls out. This happens sometimes, even to experienced users. There is no need to run to the doctor. First you should try standing up and walk around, reapply lube to the base of the vagina if it is required. Jump up and down while trying to relax your bowels and abdomens. You can also try squatting, if still does not come out, cough and push while squatting. Remember to stay relaxed… coax them down with your fingers if required. If you have had them in over a day and still not coming out, then I would recommend seeing your OBGYN but understand your still not in any danger. This is an extremely rare case keep in mind. Ben Wa Ball Conclusion It really comes down to one simple thing. Set your expectations right. If you want a pleasurable experience with Ben Wa balls, and you are expecting it to be just like “50 Shades of Gray” you will be the individual leaving the poor review on Diskret saying: “these things don’t work!” or “I couldn’t even orgasm from it!” The movie got people interested in using them, but also set women up for failure. Understand from the beginning that Ben Wa balls are meant for 3 purposes: Slight arousal while doing activities around the house, or in public if you are bold. It will be a great tease for you to unleash on your partner later or build up for an explosive solo masturbation session later. To be worn during sex, to bring both you and your partner more pleasure during intercourse. To strengthen your PC muscles bringing you longer, more intense, and more frequent orgasms. To achieve this, do the kegel exercises. Remember these are a low risk and low danger adult product, so relax, and have fun with it! Make sure to contact Diskret Adult Life if you have any further questions, at info@diskretadultlife.com